Elopers! Did you regret it?

Only you and your other half can make this decision. Each and every person and relationship is unique. One couple may think that when they eloped it was perfect, another may regret it, and another may live with what happened but have a party or vow renewal later. Only you know what you want. Do you want a big party, a little party, no party. Do you want your family there, does your other half what their family? Eloping isn't always the less expensive route either. I know some people who have sent more n eloping then what I am spending for our entire wedding. Honestly it really doesn't matter in the end as long as you and your other half are happy with the decision. The end result is the same, you are married.

I'm struggling with regret right now and I haven't even eloped yet. My fiance and I both want something intimate, small and low-key. We both want a quick beach ceremony but my parents want a church wedding, and they have been telling other family members about my ceremony. People want to come but can't because our 10 guest limit has been met. Now I don't regret choosing to elope because I still don't want a church wedding, or a big event but I'm worried people won't be happy for me or respect my choice. People feel so entitled to a party when they hear about a wedding, and don't care about what the couple wants. I don't want to be burdened with paying for a venue, catering, DJ, centerpieces, hair/makeup artist and a wedding planner to name a few.

I know in my heart that I want to elope. My fiance wants to elope. But the more people keep wanting to come and intrude on my big day, the guiltier I feel in a way. Like, I'm ruining their chance to see me get married but it's not even about them! I don't want anyone thinking that I'm keeping a secret or didn't invite them because I'm selfish and cheap. Ugh, it's confusing but I say do what YOU want. If people are upset or mad about it, they need to respect that a wedding is about the couple. I will make an announcement on FB after the elopement and I hope nobody says anything disrespectful or makes it all about how upset they are that they weren't told/invited. People should wish you well and keep it moving. If they want a wedding, they can have one. Do what will make you happy and stress free!