eloping

I threw the idea of eloping around, and my mother got wind of it. She called me crying and stating she would never forgive me. I asked her what if we brought her with us, and she said that would be fine. My family unless we kept it a secret i think would crash our eloping.

See i dont think my mom would be upset, she when we first got engaged, asked me if I would be hurt if she didn't come if I wore white

i told her that i will wear whatever I want and if she chooses to to attend that her choice, im more worried about his family as its his first

We are doing away with all of our wedding plans and doing just this. This is something that we've just decided to do. My parent weren't overly happy about it, but I think they saw they other side of it. It's going to be cheaper and less of a hassle all the way around.

Do we ever wish we could. Our mothers and my grandmother is the only reason we dont. I know they would feel pretty left out if we chose to do that. Making you can just randomly throw it into the convo and see what the reactions are. Like bring it up as a joke and see what they say. My mom would totally crash our wedding and take it as a personal swipe at her if we eloped

I wanted to do this! but my dad was sooooo upset. So then we were going to do a destination wedding with just parents, grandparents, siblings and a few close friends, but my mom was diagnosed with breast cancer and we didnt know how things were giong to go and if she would be able to travel. what if you did a DW and had your parents come with, andthen maybe a more casual bbq style shin dig when you get back to celebrate!?

I don't like the idea of eloping.. it's kind of like lying or being defiant.. We had a courthouse ceremony, but we didn't keep it a secret. We had quite a few reasons for doing it and everyone was very understanding of it! We're having another ceremony in September, so everyone is dandy

I might add that my father was there with me along with our closest friends.. I couldn't imagine doing it without them!

As a mom, i would be hurt if I couldn't be there on my sons wedding day. As a wife, we kinda did, but only cause we WANTED to be married, but having our twins first, the certificate is what the Army wanted, so we did it quicker cause of it. No time or money to plan a big day. No family either. Trust me, i'm still sad over this, lol. but we're doing a renewal. Why not do a very intimate wedding, just your parents, siblings and go to the JOP, get married and you all go out for dinner and cake

My daughter and her husband snuck to the courthouse and got married then called and told us. I said good for you! See the whole family drama drives me nuts and everyone had an opinion on everything for their wedding. Her FMIL even tried to tell her that SHE would pick the style of dress for both mothers to wear!? WTF, I can choose my own clothes thank you very much. So this is what I say, do what you need to do to remain sane and if that angers anyone, well they will have to get over it.

My sister eloped and it was very sad. Nobody would have minded if they wanted a courthouse ceremony with only the two of them and the witnesses. But they planned the whole thing, said they were going away for the weekend and then just came back and announced the wedding. Then they expected everyone to be happy. It felt very deceptive. Nobody was against them getting married so why secrecy?

I wish they had allowed us to be a part of their day. We didn't have to be there. But I would love to have gone shopping for a dress with her. We would love to have had time to get them a nice gift. We would love to have taken them out for a great dinner when they came back. None of it happened.

I think people sometimes confuse the wedding with the party. Colors don't matter. What anyone wears doesn't really matter. You can have a very simple and inexpensive celebration. But I think it's important to share the event with those close to you, not matter when it happens.

I would never be able to elope because family is so important to us. We did the closest thing to eloping - we escaped to an island and had only our immediate family there as witnesses. A total of 8 guests. 0 typical bridal showers/bachelor parties. 0 friends were invited.

After we got back and announced that we were married to our friends (some knew we were getting married in Feb. & some didn't) we received mix emotions. Some friends were very excited to hear we were married while others seemed ticked off that they weren't invited or mad we weren't throwing a party to celebrate. IMO: It really showed who our true friends were.

I just told my mom on this pass saturday that me and my fh decide to no longer haven a wedding now we decided to get married on a cruise and have a reception when we come back home. i was scared to tell her but when i told her she shock the hell out of me and said she was is glad we decided to go this route, she even said she will go on the cruise with us. i was so happy and glad she is happy with this and we got my dress too so we are now getting married in febuary. working on the planning now actually my wedding planner is i had to let her know we change it up too.lol. thank God we didnt put disposit down on everything just a few things and we need that for the reception so it is working out great for me. just remeber this my fh kept telling me. its all about you and your fh not no one else do want you want to do that will make you and your fh happy its you guys day not no one else!