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AB
Devoted September 2022

Eloping/courthouse

AB, on June 28, 2021 at 5:13 PM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 4
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Hey folks! I have seen a lot of posts about families wanting big weddings and pressure associated with that. Anyone have friends, family, acquaintances saying things along the lines of “a wedding is a waste of money”, “go to the courthouse”, “weddings are to please other people”, etc?! Lol I feel like I hear it all the time! FH would have it either way, whatever makes me happy but my gosh I don’t even know what to say to these people lol! I try to say “I want the entire day to be intentional and meaningful” and they come back with something along the lines of well going to the courthouse can be meaningful. My feelings are not hurt (it is kind of comical to me), I am just so surprised, I thought I would get pressure to invite over 70+ but it’s the opposite. Oh well! C’est la vie as my grandpa always said 🤦‍♀️🤣

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Latest activity by Ashley, on July 4, 2021 at 1:10 AM
  • Gabby
    Devoted October 2021
    Gabby ·
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    My in laws had a very very low budget wedding (like they only paid for my ffil shoes I think and everything else was given to them) so there was some push back from them on costs and why we needed certain things in the beginning. They still probably think we're spending too much money but they have definitely come around a bit more.
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  • Samantha
    VIP October 2022
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    I think the best way to handle it is 1. Not talk about wedding stuff around then and 2. Redirect when they start on on you about having a wedding.
    You’ll probably get some people who will ask why you aren’t talking about it and you can be neutrally honest “I was getting a lot of people telling me it was a waste of time/dumb/etc and it was getting me down. I am enjoying the planning but don’t want to keep hearing how I shouldn’t have a wedding.”
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  • E
    Expert September 2022
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    The only time I ever actually hear someone say this is my Sister In Law, we went to her house before the rehearsal dinner to help collect stuff that needed to be brought to the venue and she was super stressed out and screamed "JUST ELOPE" but it was all stress related lol.

    I would try to not speak negatively about planning to anyone who has made these comments to you, if you do it opens the door for them to also be negative. Also, just be honest "Yeah it's really stressful, but I can't wait to have so much fun at the reception with all my friends and family"

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  • Ashley
    Devoted June 2021
    Ashley ·
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    While we were in the thick of wedding planning (and very stressed out), I regretted not just taking the easy way out and going to the courthouse. Then we went to the courthouse to pick up our marriage license, and I swear, two couples were married right at the counter right next to us. Not even in a courthouse chapel or anything. I'm happy for them and I'm sure they saved a ton of money, but it was a bit anti-climactic. Both my husband and I were really happy we didn't go that route after we saw that.

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