Employment around wedding

My fiancé was laid off last March due to Covid and didn’t find a job until December. We postponed our wedding early on so I started stashing money to pay for it so he didn’t have to worry about paying for it. The job he got in December was okay to say… not the best. He would have accumulated 1.5 days of pto to use by our wedding & honeymoon. So we scaled back our hope of a one week honeymoon to a long weekend. All our appointments were and are scheduled around his schedule. Luckily I’m a salaried employee and have a pretty flexible schedule most days and my boss is very accommodating and understanding to my possible late arrivals and early outs (in my ten years at this company my attendance is nearly perfect). With his new job he started two weeks ago, he told them he is getting married and needs a week off in October. All our appointments and things will still be made around his schedule since he’s working graveyard. I think you should take whatever opportunities are given to you and make sure they know your schedule. Maybe you can make your appointments during your lunch or make up hours if you have come in late or leave early or maybe you change days off to accommodate your busy schedule. It won’t last forever and hopefully they are understanding of this special time in your life. Good luck!

I got a new job in March, my old job was cut to part time for a year do to Covid and I couldn't live off of that anymore. I took the first fulltime offer I got. And was very up front with them about getting married and needing two weeks off (destination wedding, going early, staying for honeymoon). They were fine with it. One week will sadly be unpaid, but to have a better and fulltime job again I'm fine with it. I can job hunt again post wedding if I want.

I lost my job months before our wedding and I basically just said I have x days already planned for my wedding. This was pre-Covid so competition wasn't as high.

You can easily apply for new jobs knowing you will need time off, just be sure to be clear about that during the final stages of the interview/hiring process. As long as your new employer knows what time you need prior to completing your hire, its typically a non issue.

What you shouldn't do is apply for and accept a new position without mentioning your pre-existing commitments and then suddenly expect your employer to accommodate all the time off you need. That typically backfires.

View Quoted Comment Oh of course! I have been disclosing the wedding at the end of every interview I get. Maybe it's that maybe it's something else, no idea but I'm not getting called back.

I would suggest trying to secure a new job ASAP. The longer you go without working, the bigger the gap on your resume becomes and it becomes much more difficult to get interviews. I work in recruitment- I don’t know where you live or your career field but unemployment is at an all time low since the start of covid - there are tons of jobs out there. Do not expect to get called back for *most* positions you apply for. You should be applying to 10 jobs/day (unless you’re in an extremely niche field). Good luck.

Be sure you are off for at least ten days before your wedding and two weeks after your wedding. you reallly need that time, both pre and post to rest, take care of details and have a little honeymoon, even if you're staying home. Don't worry. You'll get a job - just claim and and do it as a "means to an end." In other words, even if you hate your job, you are doing it for you and your life-long partner to pay for your day and any $ is better than no money. You quit or take off that time and then get another job. Best of luck!!

View Quoted Comment Very true the problem may be solved, I'll know for sure by the end of this week lol but for financial reasons I'm only taking 7 days total, 3 days before 3 after. Our Honey moon is actually booked in January.

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Okay, sounds like a plan. Best of luck!

View Quoted Comment Oh yeah that was another fear lol I actually got hired by some production company and I start today 😁

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yay! I'm sure it will work out. I do recommend hiring a "day of" coordinator. They run about $500 and up. Worth the money so you don't stress out on your day.