Engaged after 13yrs together

First of all, Congrats and I'm sorry no one seems excited for you! To answer your question though, do what ultimately makes your and your fiance the happiest. Whether you've been together for decades or just for a few months, everyone deserves the wedding of their dreams! Happy engagement!

I think you and your fiance should do whichever you want! If you want the big wedding, I say go for it! Otherwise, if you'd prefer to elope, that's a good option too. Your wedding day is about you and your fiance - do not let others tell you how your wedding should be. And also, just because you've been together for a long time before getting engaged doesn't mean that you don't deserve a big wedding. Celebrate in whatever way you and your fiance imagine your wedding day to be. Congratulations on your engagement!!

I think you should plan the wedding you and your future spouse want/would have wanted if you had gotten a more enthusiastic response from your family. That is, decide what kind of wedding you want that fits your budget, invite the people you want to invite, and celebrate.

Small weddings, big weddings, courthouse weddings, and elopements can all be nice weddings; it just depends on what you want.

Yeay congratulations!!!! We got engaged after 11yrs together!! Had to postpone last year and so we are getting married in our 13yr anniversary... it sucks when people don’t get excited for you, but as everyone is saying. The wedding is for you so as you wish and desire. We ended up planning a DW and we have about 45 guests attending!!

Congratulations!

I'm sorry your families aren't excited for you.

Weddings tend to get people excited, though - perhaps they assume you won't have one and that's why they aren't yet excited? Perhaps they may become excited if you have a traditional wedding.

Either way, you should host the wedding you want. If you hadn't received lukewarm reactions from your families, what kind of wedding would you have had? Would you have preferred to elope? Or would you have wanted a traditional wedding? You should do whichever one you truly want and will look back on and be happy with. You only get to do it once.

Do whatever you want without expectations from others. If you have a big wedding and guests don’t seem excited, will you have wished for an elopement? Do what makes you both happy.

Congratulations !!! 🥂

have the wedding of your dreams . . whether that may eloping or a big party or something in between. it doesn't matter how long you've been together . . it's your WEDDING 💕

I'm getting married on year 13 as well. Pre covid we planned a big wedding on 8 21 21 and we love love our venue. As Covid hit we realized we wanted something more intimate same date same place. It's our first wedding and the best part is his daughter and our daughter will be there standing beside us. We are doing it our way who cares how long you've been together just have fun and surround yourself with people who are your support system and Congratulations

We have been together for 13 years before getting engaged as well. Since I've never been married we are doing a wedding with reception. Bummer your family is not excited about it, I've got the opposite reaction from my family, they are totally excited about it. And I think with the COVID postponement this is going to one heck of a party, not bc of our planning but bc of people finally able to get out and get together again.

Do whatever the f*** you want! If your family can't be excited for you simply because you've been together so long, then that's all the more incentive to do what feels right for you and your FH. That being said, you guys probably shouldn't just go off and elope out of spite. You could face potential backlash. Those who are indifferent now may be ticked off later. If you wanna elope, then I'd send out an announcement either right before or right after and then say you'll have a celebration after the fact, which they are more than welcome to attend if they wish. Then again, maybe after you've been together so long, exactly what you need IS the big wedding with the bells and whistles! My FH and I have been together for eight years, and come our wedding time in October, we'll have been engaged for just over five. (We were supposed to get married last spring but postponed because of COVID.) Plenty of people have forgotten we're technically still not married, but they're all the more psyched then when we tell them not yet! Whatever you decide, best of luck, and most importantly, CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!