Engagement Party... Is it really necessary?

Congratulations! So exciting.
Engagement party is not necessary but a nice touch and an exciting way to start the planning. I personally did it all myself. We got engaged in Paris just fiancé and I in September and I did an announcement on social media about it just a couple of days after. Then in December I proposed to all my girlfriends and I had my engagement party in March. I took a while because I wanted to figure out what I was doing first so eventually I had my engagement party exactly a year before our wedding so we used this as our save the date. Again not necessary but I wanted to have the full experience so why not?

We didn't do one. We got engaged October 2018 the night before a 10 day vacation and the time we got back we didn't really feel like celebrating. Plus everyone was starting to think of holiday plans. So instead we went out to a nice dinner with our parents.

If someone offered to throw us one, we would have. We skipped it and are having a housewarming instead.

It is not necessary. That being said I didn't get one and I'm a little bummed out. My family isn't in a financially good place for it and his family isn't excited. But I definitely wouldn't have wanted a big ordeal either!
You can do small celebrations like lunch, I've seen tea and cookies for ideas for small party/celebrations too. It doesn't have to be a big ordeal if you don't want one.

Not necessary! We didn't do one. I don't even know anybody that did an engagement party.

The only people I knew who threw an engagement party were the ones that decided to elope. The engagement party was for the parents, so they could have some form of celebration. So no, definitely not necessary.

I don’t think it’s necessary, but if you really want to have one/someone wants to throw it for you then sure! We didn’t necessarily want one at first, but my FH’s Grandmother really wanted to throw one for us, and we thought it would be cute/fun so we said okay. It was about 3 months after we had gotten engaged, and it was a small get together/party with our immediate fam. It turned out perfect! It’s also a good time for both sides of the fam to get to know each other more if they haven’t already.

Thanks for all the advice 🥰... We are paying for everything, so we will most likely have a small intimate party that involves both families.

While not necessary we had one and I loved it. My aunts insisted on throwing one and did a small one at my aunt’s house with our families and the 2 best men and their wives.

It the only reason for you not having one is because you want control of it I think you are taking something from your family that they may really want to Theo for you. My aunt would have been hurt if I said no because I didn’t want her to plan something but that is our family dynamic.

My sister is now engaged and I’m planning an I do bbq for them as an engagement party