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Engagement party or no?

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Alh728, on January 7, 2014 at 2:23 PM

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Hello all! I am curious on everyones thoughts regarding the following: No one has offered to host an engagment party for my FI and I as of yet (almost 2 months post engagement). However as it seems to be customary to have one (and also being we are assuming most/all other wedding costs considering...

Hello all!

I am curious on everyones thoughts regarding the following: No one has offered to host an engagment party for my FI and I as of yet (almost 2 months post engagement). However as it seems to be customary to have one (and also being we are assuming most/all other wedding costs considering our families don't have much to contribute at all) i figured i would proceed planning a small party myself to celebrate. Nothing crazy-cocktails and appetizers at my moms house to keep expense low. However users of "The Knot" are telling me thats tacky and if no one offers to not do it. Yet i have other friends (human not via social media LOL) who said they know several brides who have thrown their own so they didn't see why that would be an issue. I am just stuck now trying to decide weither or not i should and i am just curious of everyones opinions.

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Master November 2014
KarenM · on January 7, 2014 at 9:26 PM
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You can have an engagement party for yourself, but insist on people's presence and not presents. If you want to have the party just to elicit more gifts, it's way more than tacky, it's rude.
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Expert November 2013
Jordan · on January 7, 2014 at 9:35 PM
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Have a little party that would be fun. I wish we would have had one especially since we are now moving away from everyone. It would have been nice but everyone was totally negative and unhappy about my engagement so it didn't happen
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Master September 2014
Koch Bride · on January 7, 2014 at 9:50 PM
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If you want to have a party to celebrate your engagement, go for it. I don't think it is a problem and its nice to get your families together or maybe your bridal party all together. Ours was 30 seconds after we got engaged and FH had planned the whole thing as part of his proposal. I walked into my parents house to find both of our families there and it was so great seeing our siblings interact. Our parents had all met prior to. Even if you just invite everyone over as more of an ice breaker party and have champagne to toast your engagement.
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Below is my favorite pic from the night of our engagement. My parents and us demonstrating how we're all poor now!
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Just Said Yes June 2019
Latoya · on May 2, 2018 at 6:48 PM
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Just got engaged April 8th, 2018 and this is exactly what my fiancé and I are doing. Nothing major just a reason to celebrate and party lol!
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Just Said Yes July 2024
Ry Keener · on August 13, 2023 at 1:44 AM
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Anyone who thinks your celebration is 'tacky' is really just a snob who needs to stop passing in other people's cereal. They don't deserve to join in the fun of you marking joyful life moments. Invite the people who will add to the enjoyment and leave the rest to their own devices.
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