Engagement party

If they are paying for themselves what does it matter? Invite whomever you want, and if they come, they come. If they're covering themselves, it doesn't sound like you lose money on their seats or anything.

View Quoted Comment I get that . That's why I would like for everyone to pay for themselves. My question is would I be wrong to have an engagement party and have everyone pay for themselves

View Quoted Comment Oh ok. Sorry, i misunderstood. Personally, I think if you are inviting people to an event you are hosting in honor of yourself, you should cover the tab. All the engagement parties I've ever been to have been held at someone's house in honor of the couple (usually a sibling or parents).

View Quoted Comment I haven't talked to my sister in months, she loves drama. My fiance and I live with my grandparents so I don't want it here .. that's why I would rather have it at a bar so that way if my grandparents need to they can come home where it's quite

I had a engagement dinner at a restaurant to celebrate and everyone paid for themselves . I brought a cake for dessert lol

View Quoted Comment Okay I wanted opinions cause it's hard since one person might have 1 drink and the next one might have 20.. (just a example)

I think it's fine. One option would be to split the difference and provide food but not drinks. Ie, order a bunch of pizzas and finger foods. You could even do this based on how many people actually turn up on the night, or just order in advance.

View Quoted Comment I did not think of that . Thank you

Another option, since guests are paying their own way, is to make it very informal. For example, you could text your friends something like “Hey, FH and I want to celebrate our engagement, we’ll be at this bar at this time, first round’s on us.”

View Quoted Comment Thank you I also did not think of that

If you're asking everyone to pay for themselves, I wouldn't call it an Engagement Party. If you call it a party, you're expected to host it. Just tell everyone you want to go out to celebrate.

View Quoted Comment That is true

I agree with Kristin. If you're expecting people to pay for themselves, then you're not really acting in the capacity of a "host" so I wouldn't call it an engagement party. Generally, guests shouldn't be expected to open up their wallets at pre-wedding events such as engagement parties or bridal showers. I would just tell people that you want to get together and celebrate with them, and simply not call it an engagement party.

View Quoted Comment Alright thank you. It's hard since I don't have friends to help so I am glad to find people to help me out on here

If you are hosting an event then you are responsible for paying for it.

I wouldn't call it an engagement party since you're not hosting. Just call up your friends/family and tell them you want to meet at a bar to celebrate

View Quoted Comment Thank you . I posted this late at night so my brain was fried and couldn't think of another way to word it😂

View Quoted Comment Okay thank you