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Engagement party.

Jillian, on March 12, 2022 at 9:55 PM Posted in Parties and Events 2 6

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Hi everyone! I'm having a dilemma about whether I should do one so my to-be father-in-law stops asking why my fiancé and I aren't inviting a few people who he thinks we should. We are trying to keep our wedding smaller because we are paying for everything ourselves with only a little help from my family. Mind you he isn't helping us at all to pay for anything. Anyways.... should doing an engagement party be worth having to figure out another party so people we are not inviting to our wedding be apart of celebration of my fiance and I getting married?

Thanks for any advice

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Latest activity by Jillian, on March 16, 2022 at 10:27 PM

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Jasmine S. · on March 12, 2022 at 10:11 PM
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It's considered very rude to invite people to a pre-wedding event (such as an engagement party or shower) if they aren't invited to the wedding. It makes it seem like you just want a gift but don't actually want them to celebrate the big day. Ignore your FIL, he gets no say especially since you're paying. If he wants to tell these people you got engaged, he can post about it on social media or send marriage announcements after your wedding.
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Michelle · on March 12, 2022 at 10:26 PM
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Parents can host family and friends whenever they choose that does not coincide with your wedding date. They can also announce your wedding to them, but that doesn’t give anyone freedom to invite extra people you don’t approve of. It is impolite to invite anyone to a pre-wedding party (shower, engagement party, etc) who is not on the guest list. If you and fiancé are paying for everything, you make the final decisions. Parents already got married and had the opportunity to do things their way at that time. They need to respect your choices.
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Shannon · on March 13, 2022 at 12:56 AM
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Totally up to you girl! That may not help but honestly it’s your wedding. People are going to get upset about all kinds of things like not being invite or thinking they’re entitled to something that maybe you want differently. I’m sorry you are in this situation, keep holding your boundaries!! Maybe if you redirect and say if anyone has questions they can contact you and you can express that it’s more of an in intimate wedding and nothing personal for those not invited? Just an idea, I hope this was a little helpful ❤️
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Jillian · on March 16, 2022 at 10:27 PM
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Thank you so much for your input!
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Jillian · on March 16, 2022 at 10:27 PM
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Thank you for your input!
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