Engagement party ..

They're definitely not necessary, and they also shouldn't be thrown by the people getting married, so if someone doesn't offer to throw one for you don't worry about it!

If someone offers to host one for you, they’re nice, but not a necessity nor should you throw one for yourself.

I do not plan on having one just because it'll be an extra cost for us & it adds to our list of things to do. I dont feel its necessary but everyone is different. I think now a days u can plan your wedding however you want & you dont have to be traditional.

I had one and it was fabulous! My mom and aunt threw it for me

I didn't have one and it's not necessary. There will be so many events associated with a traditional wedding so unless you feel a need, you can definitely forgo an engagement party.

Depends on what you want. We can’t tell you whether to have one or not. I opted out of one. I absolutely hate being the center of attention.

Agree with all of the above. Also, realize that anyone invited to any prewedding party will have to be invited to the wedding, so if someone offers to host an engagement party for you, think carefully about the guest list.... Congrats on your engagement!

Congrats on your engagement! We got engaged in August 2018 and threw ourselves an engagement party in early November 2018, just because we wanted to celebrate with our community. We're getting married in June 2019. We didn't overthink the engagement party at all- we just called our friends and families to invite them about 3 weeks ahead of time. We rented out a quirky little French bistro restaurant we like in Brooklyn near our apartment, during their Sunday midday closed hours, and pre-ordered a bunch of delicious food with the owner. We said no gifts but got a ton of checks and gift certificates and cards, so although we didn't expect it, we made back the money we spent and then some. We had an amazing time, and so did all our guests! Best of all, FH and I had the VERY valuable experience of planning a party together, it was like a really mini test run! We observed how it went and concluded that we had a blast, time flew by, we didn't spend enough time together, we forgot to do some things, but best of all- we felt less stressed out looking forward. It was just a fun party. And so is a wedding

Thank you all.!

I don't think it's necessary and we don't plan to, but I disagree with not throwing your own. While it may be traditional for others to throw them, if you want one and no one offers, do it yourself. We are doing everything ourselves. The only exception is my bachlorette party and that's because my best friend offered.

Definitely not necessary! We got engaged the 1st week of November my FH husbands housemate had his birthday a few days after and FH birthday a few days after him (it took a team of people to prepare for the proposal) so after I said yes we arranged an “engagement party” but in reality it was more to celebrate the 2 birthdays, and thank everyone for helping out with the engagement more than an actual engagement party focusing on me and FH but I was perfectly fine with.

It's certainly not necessary, but when my mom offered to host a bridal shower or anything similar that we wanted, we opted for an engagement party. We picked a local brewery that didn't charge anything for hosting, provided a charcuterie spread, cookies, water, and soda, and let everyone pick up their own tab. This let us celebrate in a relaxed and low key way with all our friends, local family, and coworkers, regardless of whether or not we'd be able to fit them into the guest list later.

We had one and it was the most amazing day! It was in my future in laws backyard. We just invited a bunch of our friends and family that live around the area and had a bbq, played games with lots of music. It’s not necessary but I am so glad we had one!!

My uncle has offered to throw us one so we are having one!

My sister offered and we were happy to accept. Otherwise, i wouldn't have thought about it.

It's up to you! We live away from our family, so we just had dinner/drinks with our close friends! We got engaged before Thanksgiving and had the holidays with family to celebrate our engagement!

In my opinion, it's your wedding and if having an engagement party will help you to set the tone then I definitely recommend having one. For my FH and I it was more about getting our families and bridal party together just to celebrate our families joining as one big one! Both of our parents are separated and remarried, so our families are pretty large already. We also planned our own. Our engagement party is tomorrow actually and I'm so excited for everyone to be here!!

Didn't have one. I mean, outside of meeting up with a few friends and family for drinks immediately after the engagement itself. But we definitely didn't host a special party for it.

I did. I had a byob bonfire at our home. It was lots of fun!

We had one only because FMIL offered to host and throw the whole thing. We were super thankful!