"engagement" photo's

If you don't want to take engagement photos then don't. Can you talk to your photographer about doing something else? Family photos maybe or maternity photos in the future?

I will say that doing an engagement shoot really helps calm your nerves when photos are being taken at the wedding. I'd suggest wearing something you already own that you feel comfortable in. If you don't want photos of your body have the photographer focus on head shots and poses.

It's hard to see the first pic, but it looks like a shirt with navy horizontal stripes. If so, I would avoid wearing horizontal stripes because they make you appear larger or wider than you really are. For professional pictures, it is best to wear solid colors, like in the 2nd pic. Don't forget we are our own worst critics. Your FH thinks your beautiful and loves you, and that is all that really matters. Embrace your beautiful body, it is unique to you. Wear a color that you love and that pops on camera. Check out Pinterest for ideas. That's what I did and it really helped me pick an outfit that I felt good in and looked good in the pictures.

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Honestly, I HATE my picture being taken too. I don’t like the way I look at all. However, I am the one who wanted e-pics not my FH. I think they turned out nice and it always helps me feel better about being in front of a camera for the wedding. Not to mention this is your chance to see your photographers style of photos and if they live up to your standards for pics and posing you guys, etc. This will also give you a chance to feel comfortable with your photographer and more at ease for wedding pics.

Wear what makes you feel beautiful and that will show in your pics. I also HATE taking pics (even hate my engagement photos) but I needed them for my STDs 😩

I totally get how you're feeling & was in the same boat. We just took our epics over the weekend because I had been putting them off since August when we booked our photographer. My FH & I are the same height. He's Asian ethnically, and slim/athletic. I'm not petite built to begin with (tallish & broader shoulders), & I'm not fat but I'm curvy with boobs & a butt/thighs. It usually doesn't bug me because he likes how I look, but I was freaking out about looking gigantic next to him in our photos. I was so stressed & nervous going into the photo session, but our photographer was amazing and put me at ease. Plus my fiance knew I was nervous and just kept telling me that I was pretty and would tell me bad dad jokes to make me laugh.

Ask your photographer to be cognizant of how you are posing. My photographer was amazing and without us asking, purposefully posed us so that my FH was always slightly higher up on hills/walkways or closer to the camera to give the illusion that he's taller than he actually is. Your photographer will know how to make you look your best for the photos whether that's having you stand certain ways, or them shooting from certain angles.

Wear solid colors (dark on the bottom) and layer your top. The second pic with a fitted shirt and then a cute jacket is very flattering for curvy girls. If he's a lot taller than you, wear heeled boots or something that will get you some height and make you feel sexy/confident. And get your nails & hair done that morning so you feel your best (I got a blowout right before leaving for our session, and it really helped me feel like I looked good). You're going to have a great time & you'll be thankful afterwards to have some nice casual photos of you & your FH

Definitely wear something that makes you feel beautiful and comfortable. I think it definitely shows on me in a picture when I’m uncomfortable with how I look. I really like the outfit you posted with the jacket!

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If you are self-conscious about your body I would not wear this shirt. LIke earias stated the horizontal stripes will make you look larger than you are. Also, the flowers make the shirt look busy (which won't photograph well) and it looks clingy (which will show off any rolls you may have).

I would go with a nice solid cable knit sweater, dark denim jeans, and knee-high boots instead. Another option would be to wear a pretty long-sleeve white shirt, brightly colored jeans, a wrap or scarf, and black booties. Check Pinterest they have lots of cute ideas.

Thank you everyone, the striped shirt is definitely out... you've all given me great tips and I hadn't considered searching Pinterest so I'm sure I'll come up with something that'll help get me through this.

For my e-pics I wore a fitted black dress with white polka dots, and I changed into jeans and a floral shirt. This was much more my style than the typical solid colors. That being said, pictures are almost guaranteed to turn out better when you use solid colors and simple outfits. Wear something you’re comfortable in.

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Pinterest is amazing and addicting! I think most of my ideas for my wedding came from Pinterest, lol! But, yes, definitely check it out for clothing/engagement pic inspiration. That's what inspired me to have my pics taken in the snow wearing cream and red!

I would agree with above. Make sure to check Pinterest and my fiancé always says "black is for fat" Because its SO slimming! I would suggest little to no patterns but defiantly layer the outfit! My photographer suggested layering (especially in winter). And remember that if you wear a dress you can always layer under it for warmth! I am wearing a dress for our photos and I'm defiantly going to layer for warmth under the dress.

It may have been said but if you don't want enganment pictures see if they will cut the prices of your package.