Engagement session cancelled Twice!

Hey Date Twin!


Our engagement photos also got postponed but we ended up taking them a few weeks ago.
We decided to send out save the dates at the end of March anyways with a non-professional photo.
Honestly, with COVID I wish I never sent STDs. With all the possible restrictions and uncertainty it would have been a lot less uncomfortable to have to uninvite people (if necessary)
I would skip the STDs and just send out invites. We are using an invite that has a picture of us from our engagement shoot

We aren't really photo people, so we actually sent out save the dates that didn't have photos on them. There are some cute options on sites like VistaPrint and Ann's Bridal Bargain. So that's an option in case you still want to do save the dates. You can also skip them altogether and just do invitations, which typically don't have photos on them.

I would skip the save the dates too. If you don’t get photos in time you could always go with a traditional invite without photos

At this point, getting an STD mailed isn’t very necessary since it’s almost time for invitations. But if you still want the information out, just send a photo-less STD. Or you can include an engagement pic with your invitation, if you simply want guests to have a pic of you two. Or enlarge and frame a few pics and put them on easels at your wedding. Or use a few smaller pics in frames at your bridal shower. Or you can skip it altogether.

Sending the STD is kind of pointless as you are 4 month out and it's almost time for invitations. I would definitely do a nice designed STD without photo ASAP to get the information out. But if most of your guests already know, then I would save the money and go straight to invitations.

Because photographers aren’t essential, most, if not all, had to cancel or postpone photo sessions until states started opening back up. I wouldn’t expect any to have taken photos during COVID. At this point, I would either send save the dates or do an email version without photos. I’d still suggest doing an engagement shoot with whoever is contracted to take your wedding photos, so you will be more comfortable working with them on your wedding day. You can display some of them at the shower, wedding, etc. if you like.

We’re getting married in October and sent STD’s a few months ago...I’d say forego the STD’s at this point and just go with the invitation. We had to wait on our E-Session as well, literally just had it done Sunday! It was so much fun and I’m so glad we did it

View Quoted Comment What is an E-Session?

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E-Session = Engagement Session

View Quoted Comment Duh lol everything has been “E” for electronic here lately that part of me though you mention electronic session lol!! Man I’m so ready for this to be over lol

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It’ll be okay! I was feeling discouraged and was ready to forego the E-Session but FH really wanted to do it so we went through with it.

I’m so glad we did because I feel nervous and awkward having my photo taken. This gave us an opportunity to work with our photographer and get to know her and how she works before the wedding day. That made me comfortable and seeing the few photos she’s shown us so far makes me feel so much better & relieved! She really captured us and we don’t look the least bit awkward. I truly suggest going through with it if you can

I definitely understand wanting to have professional portraits done and I’m so sorry you’ve had your session canceled twice.
That said, it’s still possible to have some really nice photos of the two of you without a professional. Even many phones have good cameras on them and there are many photo editing apps that are easy to use. BeFunky is what I used to edit the photos my mom took for us.
Do you have a friend or family member who would be willing to take some pictures for you?

Oh man, that stinks! I'm so sorry you've had to deal with that twice!!

I'd go ahead and order Save the Dates without a photo so you can get those out and not worry about that timeline! Then you can take your time and hopefully find a more reliable engagement photographer! ❤️

A lot of people plan to use wedding pictures for thank you cards, only to find that they need 75%
of Thank You notepaper or cards before the wedding, that cannot wait 3-8 weeks for wedding photos. Custom is to send wedding gifts, not bring them to the wedding, and most arrive well before the wedding, only a few after. And shower gifts, and all thank you notes to wedding party that go with gifts. Many brides use a very nice engagement photo for notes, rather than Saves.
Save the Dates are a really new invention. And when plans may be changed or numbers change, can be a headache if sent, then you make changes. You can use a phone call, or email , to give advance notice just to those who absolutely must know more than 8 weeks ahead. Perfectly proper etiquette. That is what everyone did before Saves, and many do still. Do find a new photographer so you have a set of nice pics at this time. But think about taking the time pressure off, and using them for thank you notes. Also, some people you may have occasion to send 3 to 4 TY notes . So get an assortment made up .

View Quoted Comment This what we’re opting to do!

View Quoted Comment I wish but don’t have that option