Engagement Shoot

I just scheduled them and told him when they were.
Then I took him shopping and picked out his clothes.
It might sound super controlling. But we added engagement photos for a nominal fee to our wedding photo package.
We have no professional photos together outside of Disney World. And we're both awkward and insecure. I thought it was super important to work with our photographer and establish a working relationship with her.
I want save the date photos and photos with us in normal clothing. And maybe with working with her once before, our wedding photos might look a little less awkward.

That is such an accurate idea!! Releases the tention and awkwardness of having to pose for a stranger!!

You also don't need a ton of photos. Getting some good ones are better than having a lot of ones you'll not use. So as long as the photographer can get really good ones then maybe the shoot doesn't need to be for long either

If he doesnt like a lot of posed shots, pin a bunch of candid ones to a board and then let him rate shots on a scale of 1-10. Anything over a 7 gets added to a seperate FH 7+ photo ideas board. You can then use that board to find a photographer that has the same kind of esthetic and then show your saved pins to the photographer. Using this approach may get him to agree to a couple posed shots. This is a game we play all the time. My FH is very involved, but only when I ask him. I don't like overly posed cheesy pics that make people look uncomfortable, so this is something we plan to do.

If he’s uncomfortable that’s all the more reason to get them done. Especially with your wedding photographer. They can learn how to pose you best and he can get comfortable with the idea, because holy hell you take a lot of photos on your wedding day.

I would tell him it’s important to you and your wedding planning process and at that point I would hope he’d say yes. My FH and I had so much fun getting our engagement photos done. And the candid photos are our favorite. It also gives you a great change to interact with your photographer which will only make your wedding photos that much better!

View Quoted Comment I would do that too actually, just schedule them with our photographer that gratefully is one of our best friends so there wouldn't be that much awkwardness BUT knowing my fh, he wouldn't like it that much if I just did that. He would feel uncomfortable even though I wasn't doing it in a hard manner or anything. Will talk about it with him though, you're accurate on making it less awkward if we work with him before hand.

View Quoted Comment This is his point. Again, he's not a camera lover so he just wants to get few good ones instead of a thousand that we won't even want. Good point!

View Quoted Comment I don't like overly posed cheesy photos either! lol I would def try this with Pinterest and see if he agrees.

View Quoted Comment We were thinking the same thing! Everyone tells us it will be a TON of pictures, so we've talked with our photogtapher to just take very few formal ones and to just capture moments as he sees fit. Plus we want him to enjoy the wedding with us too, not to be all night on top of the camera.

View Quoted Comment I have this 6th sense that he will approve for candid ones lol i might actually check it out. They aren't THAT important to us but I have to admit I would love some pictures just the two of us without a whole buzz of people or wedding jigs.