"enjoy being married before kids"

I think people generally say this because they miss the freedom of being able to literally do whatever they want whenever they want without having to get a babysitter,planning, etc. We did not live together before the wedding, we are still adjusting, and because we have not experienced this for a long time we are waiting at LEAST 3 years to start trying to have kids. We do want to enjoy this time together because it is precious. But since you all lived together prior to the wedding, you may feel more ready to add kids to the mix sooner. Every couple is different. Sorry I don't have advice because I have only been married and living with my hubby for 3 weeks now! But I hope you figure things out! Its always great to get advice from people who have been there. But it also depends on your feelings as a couple and if you feel you will be ready for kids after you are married.

We have lived together since February 2017, engaged July 2017, and getting married Sept 2019. So just like you we already kind of feel like were married, just waiting to make it official haha but definitely cant wait to start a family hopefully withing a few months after the wedding!

We lived together for 1 1/2 years before getting married and we are 30 and I am still not rushing. Having a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship is way different than a married relationship, I want us to enjoy each other in every way possible before sharing our love with a new life. I want kids of course but not yet, maybe in a year my mindset will change but for now I am happy with no kids. While planning our wedding we were always busy doing something and now we have time to just be together, go on vacation etc. My in laws are pushing for a baby asap but like I tell them you won't be the one carrying it for 9 months, waking up in the middle of the night when it cries, etc so unless you're going to be doing that all then leave me alone! Lol

M FH and I will have lived together since July or August of 2015, engaged December of 2018. All our friends think we are already married! We decided on no children since we are 11 years apart, him being 42 and myself having just turned 31. We are not sure if his age is a factor, and I don't really have a maternal "instinct". We love to sleep in, go on spontaneous adventures and have the occasional few cocktail nights. His mom sometimes badgers but it's for the most part manageable. Our friends however, that's a whole 'nother can of worms!

Cheers and good fortune to those trying or wanting to try, have children already, etc!

We aren’t married yet but have been together for 6 years, have been living together since 2016 and are getting married 11/21/2020, I’ll be 28 when we get married and FH will be 32 but we won’t be planning on children for at least 2-3 years after marriage. We really want to do more adventuring and just enjoy life as a married couple before then.