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Just Said Yes November 2022

Estranged(ish) family

Cait, on July 15, 2022 at 4:26 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 4
Hello everyone!


I am looking for advice on if I should invite my half sister to my wedding.
For context, I am 27 and she is 22 and we did not grow up together. I did not know she existed even until about 5 years ago. I was adopted however she grew up with my biological mother. We all reconnected 5 years ago and spent a lot of time together, holidays, vacation, etc. But 3 years ago I had an altercation with them that frankly was quite traumatic for me. After that, I went no communication with my sister and biological mother. About a year and a half ago my sister and I began minimal communication- following each other on social media and saying happy birthday or happy holidays. She hasn’t acknowledged the past altercation. But recently she is always asking to come visit for example she wants to come for my daughter’s birthday this month which is a hugeeeeee jump for me when I feel so closed off still. She is constantly screenshotting things from my Instagram of my daughter and posting them on hers, calling herself auntie and that she wants to meet my daughter - yet we have never even received a phone call and she wasn’t involved in my pregnancy even. *I have since blocked her from my stories*
Okay to cut the rambeling short. Will I regret not inviting her to my wedding? For a short time we were very close but that ended and now she is really just a stranger to me. 90 person wedding.
Thank you for any advice and sorry if this was all TMI!

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Latest activity by Michelle, on July 20, 2022 at 5:16 PM
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    Rosebud ·
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    This is a tough one but the only person who can answer it is you, I guess the question you can ask yourself is will you regret it if you do invite her? If you want her in your life then you can invite if you don’t want her involved then don’t invite her. But if you don’t invite her that might close the door on the relationship for good. Good luck.

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  • Erin
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    Erin ·
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    I second what Rosebud said and would add to that to make sure you are contemplating this based on *your own* feelings and not those of others. Often couples get pressured by others to include certain people on their guest list. Remind yourself that this is *your* wedding and that you want to be able to have fun at it without feeling uncomfortable.
    I agree what you did blocking her on Instagram. It is never ok for someone to screenshot other’s Instagram posts and share them on their own account to their followers without permission from the OP. You are sharing it with the intention that only YOUR connections are allowed to see it.
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    Willow ·
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    If you're still traumatized from an altercation that she has not even acknowledged, than absolutely not. A wedding is no place for a violent person that you're not even close to. It's not a means to repair a relationship.
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  • Michelle
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    Michelle ·
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    Only you can answer that. Some people will say “if they are blood then you have to be friends no matter what”. If you have no relationship with someone and they are a trigger to you, you do not need to be pressured or guilt tripped into inviting them, especially if they will cause you stress. There would be more regrets involved if you did invite them out of obligation and don’t communicate any other day of the year.
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