Etiquette FU- no ring, no bring= not bad

Oh good - another "F etiquette" post. We haven't had one of those since yesterday, so we definitely needed another one.

Anyway, that is a ridiculous "policy" because it completely excludes couples who are in committed, long term relationships without being engaged or married. Some couples live together for years without being engaged - how are they any less committed or less deserving of being invited as a social unit? Who are you to judge their relationship as less important? Not everyone chooses to be married. Marriage is not the only way to be in a committed relationship.

It's nice that you openly admit to not caring about your guests enough to allow them the basic courtesy of bringing their SO.

I see it worked out for u

That is an excellent way to put it. I think I may just use this.

Here's a cookie.

Yippee. You do realize that many committed couples aren't engaged, like the MILLIONS OF GAY COUPLES IN STATES THAT WON'T ALLOW IT YET.

I don't think there is anything wrong with not wanting people you don't know at your wedding, which might cut your parents' list down quite a bit since they probably know gobs of people you don't....

but judging relationships by rings is sorta weird.

That is great it worked out for you.

I'm not following this rule, but I say do what works for you! I don't understand why the "etiquette police" feel the need to "go in". Like damnnnnnnn CHILL.

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We are friends with three gay couples, all got their partner invited, because we are also friends with them. Fh has no gay family members.

Lol

@ lanvenderJoy i agree and I wont be following it either but lol at your pic

The stupidity of this post absolutely blows my mind.

Just wanted to share my experience for others who may be considering the same thing.

Love that lavender!

Personally I'm sooo glad I invited my friends' bfs I had never met. It was really important for me to meet friends' partners that they love. I also wanted my friends and family to be as comfortable as possible (ie having a travel companion for safety reasons, and feel that their relationships are respected). To each their own. Also all 3 of those friends are either engaged now or still dating almost 3 years later.

Now if it was just a flavor of the month type thing I would probably feel a little different but would still want them to be able to have someone there with them if they so chose.

To me it's not really about etiquette but love and respect...

You might as well edit the title & put "how to piss off your guests 101"

Etiquette isn't even the issue here, it's thinking about your guests

If they were pissed or didn't like it, they wouldn't be attending. Honestly Fh and I have lived together for a few years and have been impacted by these rules, and it never bothered us at all. If you cant stand to be apart for a few hours, its probably not a healthy relationship anyway.

Not sure I need to point out the obvious here..well actually I probably do..but it seems that if you have guests in committed relationship sans ring they may be too gracious to tell you how annoyed/pissed off they are that they can't bring their SO.

Just because you don't hear any push back from guests doesn't mean they aren't shaking their heads/rolling their eyes. It just really sets the tone for their experience at the wedding. Good luck though.

Good constructive criticism/ advice Ab!

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