My FH and I are paying for the wedding without our parents' help, however, his parents are slightly upset they are not "helping us", so we are asking my FMIL to plan our rehearsal dinner.
My intent is to keep my nose out of the planning of the event planning process, and let her have her fun, however I am slightly bothered for the following issue:
1. she wants to invite all out of town guests, which is mostly from the groom's side (20+ people). The only people from my side are my mother, and my 3 people from my wedding party. She is paying for it, however this just doesn't sit right with me
2. she has not done anything to plan for the rehearsal dinner yet. Yeah, I understand it is 4+ months away, and COVID 19 may affect things. But she seems like she will be waiting to a week before to plan... after we hinted at her suggesting to start planning soon.
3. This is actually about my bridal shower. She was also asked to plan one long before this COVID-19 thing started (since she wants to be part of planning). She will be planning one in the town we (FMIL, FH, and I) live in. Sounds great, but all my families are 2+ hours away. We mentioned to her about this issue, and she seems to be pretty set on having it at our town. This makes me very uncomfortable, it makes me feel like I am a doll on display for her and her friends.
4. She has not done anything for the bridal shower yet, other than deciding on the location. When she finally decided it is about time... it will probably be the week before our wedding.
5. After we sent out the save the day cards, she asked us to remove a person from the guest list, because they got into a fairly large argument. Em... seriously?
My FMIL has an amazing personality, fun to be around, plus she loves me, and I love her, however, there are just some small things that gets in the way, that I need to vent.
Thanks for reading through my passage of angry thoughts.
