Ever wish you had just eloped?

My first wedding, I had 80 people. Even at the time, I didn't want that, but the groom insisted on inviting everyone up to the children of his cousins--and there were a lot of those.

Second wedding was a dozen people. I was much happier with that!

Yes. It was one of our options and we were SO CLOSE to just eloping... but we'd miss some of the traditions that come with a "wedding"-wedding, so we're doing a more traditional one. I do often wish we had. It's so much for one day that would have been nice either way, and now we most likely won't be able to afford a honeymoon.

Mannnnn do I ever want a honeymoon..........

We are doing a sort of elopement. Tiny wedding, only 25 people invited and is going to be a courthouse ceremony (nobody invited to that, only the reception/party) and we are just decorating my sisters garage so we do it there. We only want to get married not get in debt or have a fall out because of all the stuff lol

Literally, say this to my FH at least once a week. I know our wedding will be beautiful and once it gets here I will be glad we did it however the planning process is so stressful at times

I say this to my FH all the time! I haven't even started planning and I'm already stressed/anxious (the reason i have put off planning for so long). He's the one not really interested in inviting anyone, but refuses to elope. I say we just go on vacation somewhere amazing and just get married, all we need are our parents and siblings there, 8 ppl tops, so much cheaper and less stressful. Everyone else can just look at the picture lol

Yes!! I'm definitely with you on this! June 15th, here we come!

More than ever today. I have several times through the process...but now we're 3 days out. FH's dad was admitted to the hospital last night. He could be there through the wedding. And his family lives about 3 hours away and none of them will come if dad's still in the hospital. Plus my sister is 1 week and 2 days overdue with her first baby. They just scheduled her to get induced on the date of my wedding if the baby isn't here before. That will take her, her fiancee, and my mom out of the picture. FH doesn't want to do it without his dad. I really don't want to do it without my mom. Just really feels like no one's going to show up and it was all a big waste of time and every penny we have.

We did, then we are doing the wedding.

If I could go back and give myself one piece of advice that would be it, really consider eloping! I totally brushed it off because I was so sure I wanted a real wedding.

But around the 6 month mark I was totally dreading it like what have I done!!! For the money I'm spending I can go to italy for 3 weeks and get married there!

But I am in a phase now where I'm happy to have the wedding, it's been going in phases for me.

Oh goodness, what a perfect storm

I am so, so sorry to hear this, and sending you my thoughts that everything turns out okay. I can't imagine what that feels like for you.

Im beginning to.. as I add up prices i'm in disbelief that we're spending soooo much money on one day. I kind of do wish that we just went with our immediate family and had a small intimate destination wedding.

I agree I just started and I am super overwhelmed.

I am glad I am not alone. Thank you for the responses. This is my second marriage, his first. I left it totally up to him. I was good with a destination wedding, court house or larger wedding. As long as my kids, parents and best friends were with us. He wanted the larger wedding. The numbers are still small in comparison to some (about 100) but still a lot with planning and finances. He is an only child and never married. I think his family would have been upset had we not gone this route. Although, if I had to do it all over I think I still would have pushed a bit more for eloping or destination. I know it will be beautiful but Lord help me get there!