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Melissa, on June 17, 2021 at 3:06 AM Posted in Planning 0 4

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Hello fellow Brides out there.

Can I just start out by saying, never AGAIN will I plan a wedding. NEVER!!!!

So I don't know if anyone else has this issue, but here is one of MANY. So my fiance is not the wedding planning type. Everytime I ask can we talk about the wedding he brushes me off and says he doesn't want to talk about it now. Which leaves me doing alot of stuff on my own. A few months back we picked out our wedding colors and selected the suits that him and his groomsmen will wear. Fast forward to now, my Fiance says he's changing the suits and there colors. "Now why would he do this you ask" Because, my Fiance sister will be his best man. And now she feels she can up and change everything and makes little comments, and my fiance doesn't see it. And then he comes to me wanting things to change. I'm so freaking over IT. Also I feel his sister will try and upscale me on my wedding day. She's getting her dress made which irritates me. I'm trying not to focus on that, but damn it's hard.

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Latest activity by SLY, on June 17, 2021 at 10:11 AM

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Katie · on June 17, 2021 at 7:51 AM
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Oh I absolutely agree about told my fiance I don't want to ever have another wedding. I feel the best way is to set boundaries and put your foot down. And get your fiance on the same page as you. I'd sit down and talk with him about it.
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Sarah · on June 17, 2021 at 7:55 AM
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I am so sorry, that is very frustrating! I ask my fiance at least once a week if we can elope or have a "minimony" and he won't budge. And it's so frustrating because I feel like I'm doing all the work for the wedding he wants. So I understand your frustrations. You're so close though! So try to think about how beautiful your day will be and you'll get to marry the love of your life! and (hopefully) it'll all be worth it!
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Rebelle Fleur · on June 17, 2021 at 9:42 AM
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You need to be direct with your fiancé. This is your wedding no one else’s. Let him know how you feel and take back control of your day.

If you don’t nip this in the bud now it will cause a lot more problems further down the line.
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SLY · on June 17, 2021 at 10:11 AM
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Ugh that's annoying!! I agree with the other posters. You need to be upfront and direct with your FH. His sister doesn't call the shots, and if you and him like a certain color, then that's what you can pick. Let him know that YOU BOTH make the decisions, NOT her.
We've had this happen a lot with family members, especially the mothers, and we just had to give them tough love. "Sorry you feel that way about xyz, but this is the decision we made as a couple, and it's the vision we have for our wedding so please do not come to us about this again."
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