Ok guys. I just need to vent here before I lose my mind.
My future SIL texted me today asking if she can invite her friends to my bachelorette party. She said "we're not staying long -- we're going to do our own thing." A) SIL and I do not have a great relationship. We started developing one, and then she decided to call my FH and yell at him about not being a bridesmaid. So I, in order to keep the peace, added her and had FH add a groomsman to keep things even. Then she was like "oh I don't want to do it now." We basically made her since we had already re-arranged things. B) I don't know her friends. I met one of them for like 5 minutes but that's it. I'm 100% putting my foot down and saying no on this. I think I'm gonna say "I'd actually prefer if the party would just consist of my guests. I'd like to spend time with my friends. If you want to meet up with them elsewhere later in the night, that's fine."
Not even ten minutes after this conversation, my boss asked me if she can invite her youngest daughter to my bridal shower. Mind you, her youngest daughter is a 25-year-old woman that I was friends with in high school (kind of -- I was super close with her older sister, and she just kind of tagged along). I invited my boss and her other daughter, because I'm still in contact with the older daughter and she was my best friend for YEARS. My boss was like "So umm your MoH emailed your whole guest list and I saw that DAUGHTER A is on there but DAUGHTER B isn't. How should I handle that? We're kind of a unit and I don't want DAUGHTER B to feel excluded or anything." I was so flabbergasted and felt awkward so I said yes. I've already sent out invites to our actual wedding and DAUGHTER B is not invited. I'm not changing that, either. I haven't spoken to her in years. But she put me in such a weird spot and I can't even fathom the audacity at this point.
Guess I don't really need advice so much as a place to rant and people to support my righteous indignation. Lol.
