I’m having a major hiccup in my wedding planning. This may be kind of hard to follow and really long but here it goes.. there is this girl who I have always considered to be like another sister to me. I have grown up with her my whole life. Her parents and my father are best friends. We have done everything together since we were little. Over the years, this girl and I have become our adult selves and are not as close. Seeing each other at get togethers and being friendly, not best friends, but still consider each other “sisters” Our parents friendship is still strong as ever. I consider her parents like second parents to me.
A couple years ago, I was in a relationship with someone. Talked marriage, kids, lived together. I ended up breaking it off. He was a good guy but we ended up not being what we wanted/needed in each other. I met someone a couple months later completely unexpected, now that amazing man is my fiancé.
Over the course of this last year, I found out that my friend/ “sister” has been dating my ex. They started dating a couple months after I started dating my fiancé. I believe everyone deserves to be happy, but this was too close to home for me. I felt completely betrayed by my friend and just shocked that my ex would even go there as well. Even tho I was the one who broke up with him, I was upset about this. I found out about their relationship From my real sister, 6 months before my friend decided to confront me about it and tell me they were dating when they just happened to bump into me. The encounter was awkward, my friend was rude and short with me, assuming it was very awkward for her as well. Since then, we have been at three of the same events, with my friend trying to talk to me, telling me she doesn’t want me to hate her. I tell her everyone deserves to be happy and that I’m just weirded out by it. Followed by her complete bitchiness towards me telling me I’m just being fake when I say that. It’s strange to have an ex still “in the family” after our history together. I also forgot to add that my friend has been very disrespectful to my fiancé as well every time we are around each other.
So now for the question I need advice on.... my father is paying for a big part of my wedding.. my fiancé and I have told him from the beginning that we do not want my friend and my ex to be invited. It has caused major turmoil. My father and I are now at a standstill. He is so concerned that his 45 yr old relationship with his friends will be over if we do not invite their daughter. He expects me to “be the bigger person” in his words and just invite my “sister” I tried to explain to my dad how disrespectful she has been to both me and my fiance. And that she is not wanted there. I have spent many nights losing sleep over this. My father and i have not spoke in days since the last fight we had about it. He has said he will just not pay for the wedding if this invite does not happen. I have explained every single issue I have to my father. “It’s MY wedding” “I don’t want drama at my wedding” “I don’t want anyone at my wedding that doesn’t respect me or my fiancé” “I don’t want my ex there” “that girl stopped being my “sister” when she started dating my ex” my father says I have moved on from my ex so it shouldn’t matter and that the girl is “family” I am literally a ball of tears with my father every time this comes up because I’m that sick over the situation. HELP!! What more can I say to my father to have him see my side of things?!
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