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Katherine
Expert October 2021

Ex wife drama/ Step kids wedding outfits.

Katherine, on February 3, 2021 at 6:49 PM

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So my fiancé was previously married before me and has a daughter and son. They had a very messy divorce and she likes to make our lives living hell usually using the kids unfortunately. She also absolutely despises me. Shoker. Our issue is we would love more then anything for them to be apart of the...
So my fiancé was previously married before me and has a daughter and son. They had a very messy divorce and she likes to make our lives living hell usually using the kids unfortunately. She also absolutely despises me. Shoker. Our issue is we would love more then anything for them to be apart of the wedding but worried she is not going to allow them to be there. She already doesn't follow orders on when he's supposed to have them. We really need for them to obviously match the bridal party since we want them to be apart of the wedding. We just don't want to spend so much money on a bridesmaid dress and tux for it not to be used. I came up with the idea of buying a similar dress to my bridesmaids dresses on Amazon. Dresses aren't cheap and even if it's not the perfect quality of the boutique dresses it will still match similar. I'm not worried about her dress being exact to everyone else.. I'll just be happy she is there. Also my dresses have to be ordered by end of this month and I know she won't allow him to have them over some made up excuse. What do you think? Should I order an Amazon/ online dress for her?

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  • Katherine
    Expert October 2021
    Katherine ·
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    He's tried. She refuses to answer any of his calls about any situation in general. Half the time she won't answer his calls to even talk to the kids. She makes the kids deliver information. There is no communication from her end.
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  • Yasmine
    Master October 2020
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    Praying that things change in a positive manner soon 🙏🏾
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    VIP January 2019
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    Wow, I didn't realize you had chosen such an expensive dress. Yeah, $200 is a lot to spend on a child's dress they will only wear once. Based on all of your responses to suggestions/advice, it seems like you have made up your mind. Get the cheap dress and hope. What else is there to do?

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  • Katherine
    Expert October 2021
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    Tried to find the dress at any shop cheaper but I couldn't. Definitely wish u could of. I'm going to be in a wedding in May and paid about the same for my dress for their wedding so I'd say unfortunately it's kinda average price now a days.
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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
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    I agree with this suggesstion! Good luck!
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    Most bridesmaid dresses come in within 2-8 weeks of order, so your bridesmaids do not need to order for a few months, nor the kids. I hesitate to buy any special items for my kids 6-8 months in advance, because they grow in spurts, and unlike adults, not mostly in girth. A couple of family who wanted my youngest as flower children (?) have seen something they liked, bought it ahead, knowing clothes were a little large.
    Only to have them completely unusable , and past the return dates, so I had to start over at 10 weeks. I would buy no sooner than June. Even where cost is no problem, most young girls do not wear any low cut, bare or sexy dresses that many BM do, so they dress to coordinate with BM dresses, not match, in style and color. And as first daughter Bridesmaid, even a soft print makes it more likely she would wear it as a party dress, again. My little ones really got a kick out of being able to wear their wedding things out to a few restaurant parties, and at least one family holiday dinner with pictures. Also an opportunity to talk about the days, happily and with pride. At their ages, I hope they are not really in to price comparisons, because that is really unhealthy. What make dress are the bridesmaids wearing?
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  • Katherine
    Expert October 2021
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    Unfortunately these dresses do have to be ordered 6-8 months ahead since they have to order the dresses in the colors. I talked to the shop about the latest they could be ordered. I can't remember the maker of the dress. None of my bridesmaids will be wearing low cut dresses and they are long dresses since it is fall and most likely will be cold. I want everyone to look presentable. Having low cut bridesmaid dresses aren't a thing I like.
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