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Devoted May 2018

Exes family at my wedding?

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Lianna, on February 24, 2017 at 4:31 PM

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Is it a complete NO of inviting my exes parents? They were so good to me! Even when their son and I broke up. They are very hurt now that I'm getting married and they didn't know about it? They always said if their son and I ever broke up; they love me like their own child and would like to be in my...

Is it a complete NO of inviting my exes parents? They were so good to me! Even when their son and I broke up. They are very hurt now that I'm getting married and they didn't know about it?

They always said if their son and I ever broke up; they love me like their own child and would like to be in my life. Now they are acting like I have done the worst thing. Should I invite or is it a complete No?

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Devoted October 2016
Amber · on February 25, 2017 at 9:14 AM
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Definitely a personal decision, my sister invited her actual ex to her wedding, where that would have been a hell no for me. I realize you're talking about his parents, but still, definitely a hell no to me.
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Master October 2017
ambrok · on February 25, 2017 at 9:23 AM
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I realize you have known them for a long time; but if either your FH or yourself have any hesitations...then no invite. Perhaps you could have dinner with them afterwards?!?
If they continue to push, stand your ground...it's them/not you that is being disrespectful.
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Super May 2017
Rayla · on February 25, 2017 at 9:44 AM
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I didn't read all the other comments, but it sounds like they are being petty. Don't invite.
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Master July 2017
A. L. · on February 25, 2017 at 9:55 AM
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Your wedding is 15 months away. These people are harassing you. Block their number.
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Just Said Yes October 2017
Amber · on February 25, 2017 at 10:07 AM
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For what ever it's worth...
My ex's cousin is my maid of honor
My ex's mom is filling in for all of the MOB duties
My ex's step dad would have walked me down the aisle if he was alive
My ex's daughter is my flower girl
My ex's daughter calls me and FH aunt and uncle
My ex's other cousin will be walking down the aisle
My ex's wife will be on our gift/guestbook desk duty
My ex is security
They pretty much adopted me 10 years ago and ARE my family.
Every one has a different relationship.
Do what is best for you and your FH.
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Devoted September 2017
GoldenQueen · on February 25, 2017 at 10:44 AM
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Omg no exes or family at your wedding....think about how that would affect your FH
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Champion June 2010
Laura · on February 25, 2017 at 10:57 AM
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Given that they're not happy and supportive of your new marriage, I wouldn't invite them.

But my ex-FIL and his girlfriend were at my second wedding. And the parents of one of H's ex-girlfriends were there. It just depends on circumstances and relationships. It's not an always/never thing IMO.
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Just Said Yes October 2022
Laura · on February 24, 2022 at 8:58 PM
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I love your response. I’ve been struggling with what to do. I want to invite my ex, his fiancé, and my ex’s family. I’m so close with them and can’t imagine them not being there. My FH and ex get a long well bc we still have warm family gatherings for the sake of our children and grandchildren. They have been my family for 40 years, and just because my ex and I didn’t work out, why do we have to stop loving and caring about one another. But in our case it is a two way street. I’m so grateful I still have “my family”
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