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As PPs, it just takes time sleeping comfortably with someone at night. We also have a queen size bed, so I don't think that's the issue. Also, naps are a lot shorter than sleeping at night. Our entire relationship was long distance until last fall, when we finally moved in together. I remember having a hard time sleeping at night when we live separately. Now that we live together, I can't sleep well if he's gone (he's considered 'remote' and has to be at his job's HQ once a quarter)

It is definitely something to get used to. I was the same way when FH and I first moved in together. I could never sleep well because I felt like I had no room. However, your body does get used to it and soon enough you wont be able to sleep without him. Just this past weekend FH was away on his bachelor party so I had our entire king size bed to myself (and our corgi) yet I had the worst 2 nights of sleep ever just because I missed him. I cant remember exactly how long it took me to adjust but I would say no more than a couple months.

Probably because youre not used to sleeping with him. It takes time. figure out what works best for the both of you. Before you know it, it will be hard to sleep without him

Agree with everyone else, you are just not used to it and it’s an adjustment. We went on a few vacations together, and I slept at his house a small number of times so when we moved in, it took maybe a month or so to get comfortable. The first couple weeks, neither of us slept that great. Don’t worry about it.

It definitely takes time to get used to it. The first about month I didn’t sleep well. Now, I sleep better when I’m by my man! Counting down the days until we live together 😊

It could very well be the bed size for you from what you said but also your are just not use to him being there. For us like everyone else suggested was making the space cooler but I'm the same I hate sleeping without him now.

I have gotten to the point now that FH has thought of buying me a weighted blanket for when I am home without him.

Bigger beds definitely help. You’ll definitely get used to it. I’ve gotten to the point that I can’t sleep unless he’s next to me.

It gets better over time. We have lived together for like a year and it took about 4 months. Sometimes it's still hard to sleep if its really hot or humid.
But it does get better lol

My fiancé works nights and a mattress is horrible for two people. So I love when he has the night off but I don’t sleep as well. We plan to get a new mattress with wedding money.

I have always hated sharing my bed, BUT my future husband has me sleeping like a baby!!! I don't sleep well without him.

From all the comments I'm seeing it sounds like I may end up with the opposite problem when he's not around haha! That is a good problem to have though, I will say. I already really enjoy sleeping in a colder room and so does he, so I think that'll help a lot once we're in our new place!

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Yes from what I'm hearing it sounds like it'll be quite the opposite once I get used to sleeping with him which is good

I’ve been sleeping in the same bed as FH for almost 2 years, and it’s still a struggle! But it’s not the actual act of sharing a bed. (I’ve done that successfully in other relationships.) It’s FH. He tosses and turns and flops like a fish out of water and breaths like Darth Vader in my direction. I love that man, but sharing the bed is an ongoing struggle.

For these reasons, I’m the opposite of most PPs. FH and I both travel for work and spend at least 12 nights away from each other each month. Sometimes I’m at home alone in our bed. Sometimes I’m by myself in a hotel room. Either way, those nights are the best sleep I get!

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and breaths like Darth Vader in my direction.

hahahah This made me die laughing

To be honest a lot of sleep science has shown that couple's who bed share have an adjustment period for 3 months to a year afterwards. It's totally normal.
Some couple's don't like sleeping together at all ever.
My fiance and I live together and we sometimes still sleep in different places if someone has an important day coming up. Going from full to queen bed absolutely helped and we're saving money for a king, not being on top of each other is a huge deal. Also try different blankets at first so nobody is a blanket stealer.

We had a queen size bed for 2.5 years od our relationship and it was kind of awful. Neither of us are small people (he's 6'6, I'm 5'10 and plus size). And we're both our own radiators. We started sleeping better with the king size.

View Quoted Comment Haha, it’s totally and sadly true though! I call him Darth all the time.

View Quoted Comment I have the fan on all night. We both love a cooler room at night. He cuddles all night. I thought I would hate that. That I would never be able to sleep. Nope, I fall to sleep in his arms and wake there in the morning. I don't know how his arm doesn't fall to sleep!!!
Without him I toss and turn!!

Girl same! My FH and I don't sleep well either but we haven't lived together. We actually have gone so far as to make sure our apt has two bedrooms in the case one of us can't sleep we can migrate there. We did make sure to get a king bed so that we both have enough space.