Families don't mix

Yes you have to have a reception if youre having guests.
Im not sure whats uncomfortable? Wed need to know in order to tell you how to make it less uncomfortable.

Please remember that at every wedding you have a variety of people. It is a wedding and you should expect people to drink, party, dance, and have a good time. I honestly do not think that a huge percentage of weddings have crazy antics. Yes there are those who do however most go as planned.

View Quoted Comment The only people he has coming are his family from the islands. So basically most of the people will be my family and friends. They don't drink or dance or even do rings. So I know they will leave when everyone starts getting their Groove on. I just want it to be a happy occasion but I'm really stressed about the dynamic. Plus my step dad is racist (my FH is black). And even tho he has been in my family for a long time I'm not having him walk me down the aisle. And he's pissed about it which is just stressing my mom out. Sorry 😱😰 I'm just really worried about it all. Not sure if you know what this is but my family is Pentecostal (I'm not). Also, most of my wedding party consists of his family and not mine.

You dont have to have a reception. You could literally just have a ceremony if you wanted. I personally would want a reception though. And I've got some heavy drinkers and very opinionated family and then some more conservative family. And I'm like well, here we go lol it's a wedding, not everyone is going to be the same.

Yes you have to have a reception as it is a thank you to the guests for attending the ceremony. But you could have a cake and punch reception at a non meal time if you’re worried about people getting out of control.

View Quoted Comment I just know all my people will leave again party time and it's gonna feel sad. I was just tryna think of a way to avoid it.

View Quoted Comment I was thinking about holding the music and dancing off till after the cake cutting and speeches so they will still get to stay for the important stuff and then whoever wants to stay and party can.

I totally understand this concern. My fh's immediate family are amazing and I love them to pieces, but our families are very different. My mom is a bit boisterous and loud lol and everyone curses. A lot😂. Also, his grandad is slightly racist as well but I'm trying to not dwell on the negative and imagine a super fun and drama free reception.

View Quoted Comment My imagination is too good 😂 hopefully I'm just overthinking and everything will be ok

View Quoted Comment We can do this girl!! The mind does tend to conjure up the worst case scenario before the best lol

You do not Have to have a reception or even a big ceremony. However a reciption in nice and Salome guestay be upset if you dome have one. Like others said people are used to different Troyes of people at a wedding.

View Quoted Comment We are doing cake first dances speeches and dinner first thing manly because his mom and grandma have health problems. So I want them to be able to go if the need to.

Oh man. This is a worry of mine too. I’m from a large, loud, music loving, Hispanic party. He’s from a southern baptist, conservative family....and I’ve heard some racist comments.
My plan: party hard. I don’t think I’ll care about anything but dancing with my new husband and daughters. We are playing Spanish and English music. Slow songs but mostly dance music. We will have alcohol, but once we run out....we’re out.
My suggestion to you: have a friggin blast. Don’t worry. Enjoy your new hubby.

Are you able to have a conversation with some of your family that it would really mean a lot to you if they would stay and try to have a good time? That doesn't mean they need to drink or dance, but they could just stay and chat.

We're having a very small reception, but I was worried about some conflict as well. His family and my mom's side of the family have some pretty racist members, while my dad and abuelos are from Honduras. I just am telling everyone that under no circumstances is there to be any political discussion or anything of that nature. When we stay away from politics, everyone gets along just fine.