We have a two year engagement and during the last nearly 1.5 years we have had so many deaths and divorces that have affected our guest list. For example, we've both lost grandparents who we never imagined would miss our day and my fiancé's aunt and uncle who were married over 30 years just got divorced which blindsided everyone. We actually decided to cut the anniversary dance from our wedding now that they've divorced because they were going to be our longest married couple and we don't want to bring up sad memories by including it.
I assumed that his (now-ex?) aunt would no longer be invited considering that his uncle is his dad's brother and the woman we're pretty sure had some part in their divorce was on the guest list even before his uncle began a relationship with her (she's a long time family friend). Last night I mentioned how his aunt wouldn't be there and he looked super offended and told me she was definitely still invited because that's been his aunt for 30 years and he wanted her there still. It's his family so obviously I'm not going to tell him we have to cut her, but neither of us currently know if they're talking to each other or where their relationship is, so I can definitely see some drama coming from all of this.
I'm not really looking for any advice, but more so am wondering if anyone else has experienced big changes like this during their engagement and how they navigated it all. It's been super disappointing that during a time when we're getting ready to get married we're experiencing divorce in many people close to us.
