So my dad and I are not horribly close. He was military when I was growing up so I never really got to see him and I was taken away by a case manager when I was 15. Since then I've re-established contact with my father and he was very mad at me for announcing a wedding because due to traditions he said he'd pay half of the cost. Well as of now my fiance and I have paid 30% and my (deceased) mother's mother has paid for about 35%. Not a dime has come from my father whatsoever.
My adopted father (who I told first) helped me get the save the dates and the invitations out and in general is being more supportive and excited for this wedding.
My bio father recently got into a new relationship and she's demanding that She gets to do my makeup and hair and nails as a gift (to me) that she comes as my father's date, and that I invite her children and grandchildren.One of her son's actually works in the same field I do so I see him in meetings sometimes and we discuss work. I've never met her other son's and I've met her daughter a handful of time to pick up the granddaughter and bring her to my dad's. I know if I don't honor this and invite them my dad's girlfriend will take this out on me and my father but I'm also kind of mad at my father for making a huge deal out of something that he's already completely failed to do and telling her it's okay to invite these people without even consulting me first! My FH said that my best bet at this point is to just focus on my adopted family, as they have been nothing but kind to me since they adopted me and my bio father is all around not the best kind of person. I'm honestly not sure what to do as pissing off his girlfriend will ruin whatever bond my bio father and I have finally built up.