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Family Far Away

MelsGirl06, on September 4, 2008 at 1:08 PM Posted in Planning 0 5

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Ok so my fiance and I live in New York, which is also where his dad and brother live. ALL of my family lives either in Wisconsin, Illinois, or Nebraska, some of them are nagging me to have my wedding in the Midwest, but I know if I move the wedding out there it's going to mean less time on my honeymoon because I'll have to take extra days off to plan and have the wedding there, and I also know that my fiance's friends will not be able to attend and his friends are his family, considering he does not consider his extended family part of his life.I have a failry large family, some probably won't come if I have it in New York but they aren't readily in my life as it is, and I don't want my fiance to have no one at HIS wedding!! It's my day and his too! Any thoughts?

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Latest activity by Leann Moore, on September 8, 2008 at 10:53 PM

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Christina · on September 4, 2008 at 8:35 PM
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Do it where it will be convienient to you both. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. It will make life easier that way too. Im glad that your taking into consideration your FH. I find some brides to be selfish and consider the wedding only to be their day. Hello! If there wasn't a groom, you wouldn't have a wedding to begin with! Seems to me like your not inclined to do it in the midwest, and you shouldn't just cause you have family there.
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LES · on September 4, 2008 at 9:21 PM
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Christina P is right. You and your fiancee should sit down and think about what your perfect day would be and where that would be. You may also want to think of the handful of people that you both think really, really must be there to make the day special. (For some people, this is simple -- bride and groom. For others it extends to immediate family, best friends, etc.) Once you've had this talk, it should be pretty clear where you should have the ceremony.

Now are you talking about New York State or New York City? NYC is a transportation hub with a gazillion options for flights in, hotels, etc. It's a very easy place to travel to for a wedding. If you're not, you may want to think about a compromise. Is there a close by city to where you live that would provide easy transportation for your family and also make it possible for his to attend?
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EcoChicWorldWeddings · on September 5, 2008 at 2:09 AM
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Better have a reception near your family!!! Thats what I say anyways... Even if its near Christmas or something! Have fun, New York Wedding sounds fabulous!
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Savvy June 2010
MelsGirl06 · on September 5, 2008 at 9:57 AM
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Thank you for your responses!! I am not having the wedding in the city but it is close to transportation either way! The city gets VERY expensive!! My sister is getting married August of 2009 so while we are in the midwest then and all of my family is there we may decided to throw a party or something for all of the relatives to celebrate, and I will make sure that it is far enough away from my sister's wedding to upset her!! Thanks for the ideas, very helpful!!
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Leann Moore · on September 8, 2008 at 10:53 PM
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This is really tough. My fiance and I had the same problem. His family is in California, mine in Virginia (could our families be any further apart??). We decided on California because my family was able to afford to fly out with our help, and I had fewer family members. It was tough not having all of them there, but we are planning a small reception in Virginia on our 1 year anniversary and inviting my family who didn't get to attend.

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