Family in two different states

Where do you live? That's how we chose. It's much easier to plan a wedding in the state you reside in (however not impossible to do otherwise). Maybe make it a practical thing? Where are wedding costs less expensive? Someone is going to have to travel... You can't help that. Make other factors the determining ones for your decision.

My FH's family is in NY and mine in Chicago. We have friends all over and live in Phoenix ourselves.

We made the guest list and determined where the most amount of guests lived. With the remaining, we looked to see where the most central travel spot would be and decided ultinately Chicago would be the best location.

You may also want to consider Who's paying for the wedding. Since my parens are hosting the wedding, it made sense to have it in my hometown.

Im from Massachusetts, DH is from Mississippi. We live in Massachusetts now so it was a no brainer for us. Just be prepared that some people will not be able to travel

I'm from New York and my fiancé is from Seattle (where we currently live). We chose New York because the majority of my family would not be able to travel here whereas his family is able to.

Plus the wedding "scene" is much different in New York than here and that is more of what I want.

I would just decide who would have more troubles traveling and go from there. Look at venues from both states and decide what you like better, etc. Take budget into consideration also. Certain states are more costly.

I had that problem too. FH's family is in PA and mine is primarily in MS. We decided to have it where we live now, Maryland. It's just easier to plan and do what I want since I will be doing DIY items. Also, the family I want to attend is more able to travel than FH's family. Wherever you have it some people won't be able to come. Just plan on doing it where the the people that you and your FH really want to be there can make it.

FH and I live in Phoenix. Our families are in Chicago, Kentucky, Puerto Rico, NY, NJ, and Italy. At first we wanted Kentucky because we'd get the atmosphere we really want, but then we found the ranch in Laveen that gave us exactly that (minus a creek) and we both wanted to be able to plan the wedding and be within driving distance while planning. Both of my brothers had destination weddings and their wives said they really had very little control over the planning and couldn't really get everything or everyone they would've wanted.

Our families are in different countries!! And we live in a third...

We knew wherever we held it some people wouldn't be able to make it. Just decide where works best for you and family/friends will come or not. You can't do anything else.

We picked the US in the end because we fell in love with the idea of getting married in his parents backyard. It means my family will have to travel from the UK but the ones I really want to be there will manage it.

Honestly think about what works best for you in terms of planning and budget and go from there,

We live in Chicago and all of my family is from here. FH is from Denver (just moved here last year after a long term distance relationship) and 90% of his friends and family are from Colorado, with the rest scattered everywhere, even Alaska and Australia. Our biggest deciding factor was financial. His family and friends are vastly more financially able to travel here for a wedding then vice versa. Plus we live here so it made planning easier. And we first met in Chicago and had our first date as a couple in Chicago so it had all kinds of significance to us as a couple. We talked to his parents and a couple vip friends about it, they all agreed so decision was made.

I am from MD too and FH's family is here, mine is in Oregon. We are doing it in MD, it is much easier to plan here from your home state then further away. While it may be a bit of an inconvenience for some family members, it will become a headache for you if something goes wrong and your miles away. I suggest keeping it local.

Typically its where the bride is from. Alternatively, you could have the wedding where you and your fiance live now. That might actually be much easier in terms of planning!

I am from Tampa, FL and FH is from Virginia. We live in Iowa. We are having the wedding in Tampa because that is where the majority of our guests live and we figured it would make more sense for the least amount of people to travel even if we have to.

Whereever the majority of your guest are, but I would also try to find a place in the middle.

my neighbor is from maryland but moved to florida and her fiance is also from florida and they are getting married there.

but i would say try to meet in the middle somewhere

FH family is from India mine are from Barbados so we put our wedding in the "middle" Florida so it would be fair. It is all where we live so it would be easier to plan from here.

We are in that same situation. I am from CT he is from MI and we live in MA. We picked MA because it is easier for us to plan being local. We are making it a destination weekend for our families. Both are families are fine with traveling. It just takes a lot of planning!

I'm from MA, he's from Mexico but has been here forever. All friends and my family are here. About 20 family members will be invited from Mexico. We see them a lot so if they can't attend it's ok.

FH and I live in Maine. Our families are in Florida, Massachusetts, Utah, Idaho, South Dakota, New Hampshire, and North Carolina. FH and I decided to do New Hampshire because we love going to the White Mountains, and it fit our budget perfectly.

We're in that boat, too. I'm from NJ, FH is from Chicago, and we live in Phoenix. Originally we were going to do Chicago since that's an easier travel distance for my family in NJ, but ultimately settled on Phoenix after a friend in a similar situation said they got married in Phoenix because it was where he and his wife were going to live their lives together and that's where they wanted to get married.

We live in Nebraska, my family is from MI and mostly still there, FH's family is from NE but has kinda scattered. We have a bunch of friends here, but we also have friends all over the country. We decided on MI based on sheer numbers--fewer people would have to travel.

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FH's family lives in IN, my immediate family is in GA and my extended family has lived in NY for forever. We live in OH, and with all the other complications we decided we were just going to make everyone unhappy and have the wedding in OH.