Family Invasion

Limit what you tell them. Or don't tell them much at all. I learned that people will be easy to judge and be opinionated about it but if you don't tell them much then there's not much they can do or say

I agree with PP, limit what you talk to them about. My parents are helping us with the cost of the venue and food, so that is what we talk about. They both have tried to voice their opinions on other things such as where we get bridesmaid dresses, rehearsal dinner, my mom tried to pick our first dance song. I haven't gotten the best reaction for doing this, but it's given me such a headache it's for the best!

Stop telling your family the details. I know that sucks because you wish they'd be happy and support your choices, but sometimes that just doesn't happen. I've stopped telling my mom things after she's dumped all over a few of my ideas. FH told me that I need to stand up for myself, but I'm not very confrontational, especially with my family. Have the wedding you and your FH want, not everyone else! Best of luck to you

Stand your ground! It's your wedding not theirs. I'm playing a song during our Spice of Life ceremony and my sister HATES it. The song is "Diese Kalte Nacht" by Faun. It's a celtic song sang in German. Our wedding has a lot of celtic elements, my fiance and I LOVE Faun, and we love that it is a nod to our German heritage. She feels the German doesn't make sense and it is too upbeat. But you know...mwe aren't changing it. It's our wedding after all and we love the meaning behind the song.

If you are curious about the song, I'll include a link to the song:
https://youtu.be/g0uN3REgIRk

"My family on the other hand is trying to tell me to make sure he doesn't stomp on my dreams and to let him know who's in charge." . Why is it that think he's stomping on your dreams when it sounds like they're the ones doing the stomping?

It's been a week!? Enjoy being engaged for a bit! We didn't even think of planning until after a month. You get to be engaged for what? A year or 2? Just enjoy it right now. Plan with ur fiance and day dream. Leave everyone else out of it until you are 100% sure and ready to do what you want. Nobody can discourage us from what we want bc we are 100% sure it is what we want! We just had a convo with future in laws and we kept talking about our plans and ideas until they were on board. And if they weren't, we'd still be talking about them!

And make sure ur family know it's both ur ideas and nobody is stomping on anyone else.

My FW and I both have very big and very, for lack of a kinder word, INVOLVED families, so I understand the situation 😂

I agree with everyone else, though—limit what you tell them and what you allow them to do. Unless they’re paying for it, they don’t have to know. They may get mad, but it’ll save you so much stress down the line. Just keep telling them not to worry and that you two have got it covered whenever they ask about things. Do your best to just ignore the unsolicited advice—because nothing will stop it from coming. “Thanks, we’ll think about it” is probably my most-used phrase when talking to my family.

My parents are paying for the wedding. And between me and my FH traveling for work and buying a new house and my future brother-in-law coming to live with us, I need to start planning early. Just frustrating when you have 2 older sisters who already have everything planned out and my parents wanting the wedding literally down the street from them (I live in another state).

I would limit what you tell them and if you do tell them something, stand your ground. This time is stressful for most brides but there is also a lot of enjoyment and if your family's involvement (aka their opinions) are bringing you down, I would just let them be surprised in the end. Good luck. I hope everything works out.

So i agree with everyone else but I also suggest you have a conversation with them saying I appreciate all the efforts and advice you guys have. I feel so honored and appreciated that you all want to help and I too have always had a vision of my wedding and I know what FH likes as well so I'm going to see my vision through but you guys can come up with ideas for xxxx (bridal shower, signature drink names, hash-tag help etc.) superficial things.

If your parents are paying for the wedding then its more their wedding than yours! Good Luck!

Thats just how it goes, maybe you can opt for a small wedding or courthouse wedding that FH and yourself can handle for yourselves.