Hello friends. This may be a long one.
TLDR: looking for advice on holding my ground on not inviting family members who have hurt me or other loved ones.
Getting married on 11.12.23. FH and I have started our preliminary guest list. I am running into two issues regarding my family. I do not have a good relationship with my maternal grandmother. She has caused me and other members of my family a lot of hurt over the years. She and my grandfather are not in good health and we are having the wedding in a different state than where they live. My mom is asking me to still send her and my grandfather an invite with the understanding that they probably can’t come anyway. I understand why should want me to at least send an invite, but I have told her I CANNOT have my grandmother there on the big day, so I don’t feel comfortable sending an invite. I already approved the rest of the family on my mom’s side as well as her best friend from high school and her husband (which was an easy choice as her friend is the kindest soul who has done a lot for my family over the years).
Now for my dad’s side. He does not have a lot of family still living. His sister (my aunt) is someone who likes to push buttons and seems to have little regard for the way her words impact others. She and I have very different values. I am concerned about her interacting with my FH’s family as she does not hesitate to make her opinions known. I know my dad is going to be really hurt if I don’t invite her and it is going to cause issues as I am inviting his brother and his wife.
I understand where my parents are coming from, but I also feel that people who have chosen to push boundaries, hurt people, and dig their heels in when confronted over the years do not need to be at the wedding. Help?
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