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Hannah
Savvy October 2022

Family issues

Hannah, on October 11, 2021 at 10:29 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 3
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My fiancé’s family have always been around seldomly. We got engaged at the end of July and the last time we saw his mother’s side of the family was the first week of July. On august 17th we announced we were having an engagement party on Oct 17th. We sent out Facebook invites, texts and calls. We physically went through and called every person on that side of the family. On October 4th we called around again to remind his family on that side and they acted as if they had no clue this was happening and said they would be there. Now the weekend before they have seemingly have plans that they have had for a few weeks. We went from 25 people coming to 15 because of this. This is not the only wedding related issues we have had with his family. At this point my brains going towards me being the problem for them, I know they didn’t have the best relationship when we first dated but you’d think that if your only child is getting married you would want to be there for those moments…

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Latest activity by Emilia, on October 28, 2021 at 12:43 PM
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    VIP January 2019
    Maggie ·
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    It sounds like that is a long-standing pattern for them, so there's no reason to think it's based on a personal dislike of you. If your future spouse is sad their family isn't involved in pre-wedding parties, then I am sad for them. But wedding planning will go a lot better for you two, if you both set aside any expectations that people will suddenly change their behavior just because you are getting married. Focus on your relationship, your celebration, and your future, and let people be who they have already shown themselves to be.

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    Devoted June 2023
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    I wouldn't take it personally. Some families are not great. My parents would make it a priority if they liked my fiance or not because they love me and I would do the same for the people I love. I did all the wedding things short of being a bridesmaid for my best friend even though I hated her fiance. It's a them problem not you. You're going above and beyond trying to get them to come.

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  • Emilia
    Super June 2019
    Emilia ·
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    Hi. Don't overthink the situation... don't let it spoil your moment.

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