As some of you know from one of my posts. My fiancés mom pulled the plug on our wedding in their backyard, all because my mom accidentally booked my shower the day his mom had a wedding she never told us about. My fiance argued with his parents about it for a week and how horrible they are.
Well now his mom feels so horrible about what she did and realized how extremely wrong it was of her. She has been trying to make it up to us. She told us we can have it in her backyard again and she would pay for everything. I told her over my dead body. His parents have been calling around trying to find us a new venue. We did end up finding a new venue it was actually are old venue that we previously lost because of covid. However my fiance has forgiven her but he told them that they are skating on thin ice with him. His parents have never done anything like this before so I can see why he has forgiven them. I told my fiance that I would probably never forgive her for what she did and I would never have the relationship with them that I used to but for him I'd at least be cordial with them.
Well now my mom is pissed because she wants revenge on his parents. She is now making the shower even later in the day to make sure that his mom totally gets screwed and again I totally understand. She feels we are just letting what she did go and giving her, her way. I told my mom that I understand her frustration but at the end of the day I have to make decisions that are best for my marriage and future family, Just like I know my fiance would do for me if the shoe was on the other foot.
But what upsets me is that my mom has dealt with my dad's family for years. Making fun of her to her face and making her feel so unwelcomed from the start and she wouldn't say anything because she loved my dad. Or my sister in law almost destroying our family with a really terrible lie years back and my mom sucked it up for her son. The other day she even surprised my brothers wife with a birthday cake for her birthday and a $50 gift card. But she thinks I should force my husband to be to completely cut his parents out of his life for good. And keeps telling me when I bring up what she does for the ones she loves that my situation is different. But I don't see that much of a difference. Idk what are your thoughts?