Ok yall I seriously don't know what to do about this drama that both families are causing.
1. Long story short my FMIL HATES my FFIL. Like literally said she hopes he dies before the wedding so she doesn't has to see him. So I think ok, lets seat them on opposite sides and have them walk down the aisle far enough apart where it isn't a problem. Also my FH loves his stepdad so we are doing dances with ALL our parents (it will take forever but whatever) so no one feels left out. But now my FMIL is saying for us to just dance with my FH nephew...like no he wants to dance with his mom not his nephew...how do I approach this beyond saying "Hey it means a lot for my FH to dance with you"???
2. After dealing with problem 1 from day one, my parents got divorced this year (long time coming honestly) and last night my dad says "Do I have to come to this?" LIKE REALLY!!!!! So I say ok why don't you just walk the grandmas down the aisle at the ceremony and stay for part of the reception. He counters with no he will walk me down the aisle and do the first dance with me but is leaving after that. Oh and he's sitting in the back of the Church as the ceremony and I don't need to invite his side of the family because it's my second wedding. Like what do I even friggen say to that?????
Any help on either issue would be soooooooooo appreciated!!