We've been married since March 2017. We faced very strong, mean, obnoxious opposition to our marriage by all of his family, especially his adult children, but our friends were thrilled for us and my family has been pretty supportive (although they think I'm nuts; he's 27 years older than I). Over the past few years, some of them have adopted the "benign neglect" approach to our marriage, some are passively aggressive towards me, and some still aren't speaking to him or me, and that breaks his heart. I think there's a couple of issues (they are devout Catholics, I'm not; I'm not their mother/mother-in-law, and no one could possibly replace her (not that I want to or have tried); and, of course there is the inheritance issue (i.e., we're spending it and the house is in my name now). How long should I continue struggling to get his family to at least be superficially nice to me, and, more importantly stop treating their father/father-in-law like this? I try to engage them, am nice to their kids, go to high school and college graduations, coo appropriately over new babies, ask questions about their hobbies/interests, pet their cats, invite them to holidays, etc. Is there anything else I can do? This is getting very old, and he doesn't have many more years left.
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