Wedding planning has gone absolutely awful. I told my parents we wanted to elope, we had already planned our “just us elopement” in hawaii prior to covid but ended up canceling due to covid/family wishes. We then somehow got wrangled into planning a 200+ person wedding that got canceled due to covid.
The struggle is now my parents understand why we want a small wedding but they said it’s unforgivable if I marry without them. That weddings are about families not just the bride and groom. They dreamed of this day since I was a baby. I’m breaking traditions. It feels like they’re dying if I don’t go. We were starting to plan a small destination when safe to do so. However we are still stuck because family wants a celebration back at home for those not invited. The grandparents won’t be able to make the hikes. And so many more reasons. We were going to sign the papers later when we got back to our home state but now it’s not a “real wedding”.
A courthouse ceremony with Elvis sounds great at this point. I really want my parents to understand this is my wedding and I don’t like all the traditional stuff. Hiking and celebrating us our way is what I want/going to do. How do you deal with the guilt of hurting them? Not trying to have their ghost haunt me.
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