Father- Daughter Wedding Stuff. (venting)

I feel you, and while there may be some hurt feelings and some "that's not the way it's done"s, you shouldn't do anything that makes you uncomfortable. I'm having my mom ALSO walk me down the aisle. It makes it less about one particular parent and more about the parentS, which makes me feel heaps better. Good luck and remember not everybody needs to like what you do and you don't need to let their comments bother you. 😊

A friend of mine had both her mother and father walk her down the aisle. It was such a wonderful moment - maybe you could do something similar if you want to walk with your mom but don’t want to offend your dad?

It’s your wedding, do whatever makes you happy. You can have both parents walk you down like it was suggested previously

My dad had distanced himself from me for years because I wasn’t making life choices that he agreed with. He decided he wanted to be apart of my life again 70 days before our wedding. My first time on a zoom call with him he asked me if he’ll be walking me down the aisle and I told him flat out, no. I’m having my mom walk me down the aisle because that is the person who has been there for me and loves me no matter what. To my surprise, nobody is upset with that decision like I was worried about. Do what makes you happy as this is your day!

I think you should do what you and your fiance want! Don't let anyone else tell you what to do with your wedding. People will always have their opinions, so the only people you should focus on the opinions of are you and your fiance.

I didn’t have the greatest relationship growing up with my dad but we got past it and well right before the wedding he acted up and I almost cut him out. I ended up surprising my mom with a mother daughter dance and let my dad walk me down because I know it would crush him considering the only kid ( let alone daughter) he took care of.

My relationship is the same way (though at one point I had cut him out of my life entirely). My dad's not a very present person. I originally was just going to have my mom (they're divorced) walk me down but, she suggested both of them do it. She didn't want his sisters to cause a stink about it. My plan is to have the plan of him walking me down and if he flakes it will just be my mom. While it's not ideal, sometimes you have to pick your battles. At the end of the day, it's your day and you should do what's best for you, not what's best for your family. Remember that it might be good for your mental health to compromise on one or two things just to get them off your back every once in a while.

My father and I have actually had a wonderful relationship (so I thought) but then it got really rocky these past couple of years and he got a new wife and started treating me like dog crap and excluding me from a lot of things. My father always knew since I was a little girl that I didn’t want my fiancé to ask for his permission (he did it anyway and I was pissed) and when I was younger I did tell papa I wanted to walk alone down the aisle (idk if he remembers but he’ll find out that day I guess lol). I have always loved the idea of presenting myself to my husband at the end of the aisle. No one contributed to that relationship. Why would I want someone to give me away?


When we got engaged I asked papa how much he could contribute to my wedding (you know those “tough money talks” - that wasn’t going to be tough for us because we were so close and could talk about everything) and he said “I didn’t plan on contributing anything” which was devastating for me but I knew he was also in the works of getting married himself. I was looking forward to building things with him and DIYing things with him but then our relationship took a downturn. I also found out a few months ago that he had been married for a full year (months before I even asked him about my wedding) and just never told me or invited me even though I was at their house once a month to visit him and build a relationship with her. CUTE.
I say walk yourself down the aisle. Not because you don’t want to include him or don’t like him or whatever. But because it’s you and your husband from here on out so you want to enter this new relationship alone.
To appease the “talkers” my parents will be walking down the aisle directly in front of me. So it’ll be the husband with his parents together, the MOH/BM, the bridesmaids with their assigned groomsmen, my parents and then me.

Oh and we won’t be having father daughter dance or mother son dance, the day is about US.

Do what’s going to make you happy! How do you picture your wedding day? Once you have a firm idea, stick to that. My dad refuses to accept my fiancé (we’re a lesbian couple that’s been together for 4 years). I’ve changed my idea of a wedding over and over again because of COVID but I’m firm on the fact that I don’t want him present. I know I will have some backlash/tension from my family but that’s what I want. On the other hand, my fiancé’s father is also not invited for other personal reasons, but she’s supported in her decision.
Either way, do what makes you happiest. It’s your wedding day, not anyone else’s. (Especially if you paid for it.)

I also had a contentious relationship with my dad for a long time. Both my mom and dad will be walking me down the aisle, and we are not doing a father-daughter dance (but mostly because of COVID stuff; we're only doing our first dance).

It’s your wedding & you guys have it the way you want, not the way everybody else thinks it should be. I’m having my dad walk me down the aisle, not because it’s “expected” but because it’s what I want. My fiancé & I have been together a long time (total of 15 years). I loved that he asked/told my dad he was going to propose.
My daughter plans on having me walk her down the aisle. Her relationship with her father isn’t the best plus we’re closer.

You don’t need to do anything you are not comfortable doing. If you don’t want to have your father walk you down the aisle then don’t. Walk alone or with your mom like you want. You can still honor him as your father with a boutonnière and let him do a toast if he wants. Please don’t let what others will think push you to doing something you don’t want to do.
I have an ok relationship with my father but it has never been great. I am walking down the aisle myself and not doing the father/daughter dance, none of that. I am getting him a boutonnière so he is recognized as my father and we will include him in pictures but that’s about it. This is the relationship he has created and I am not going to look back on my wedding day and regret anything.