Father with Dementia

How does he handle large events? If he doesn't know who you are or what's going on, then these things may all be very difficult. You don't want him to get confused or belligerent when people ask him do something. I would look into hiring a caregiver for him, so you and your family can focus on getting married and enjoying your day.

View Quoted Comment Thank you for responding, Jasmine! My dad around a small gathering is fine currently. He just zoned out and sleeps a lot. He’s super nice and sweet as of now too. Our wedding will be small - only 30 people max. I’m wondering if my mom can ask a friend to care for him if needed? Pay for services.

View Quoted Comment This is good to hear! (My grandpa had dementia and while he was OK at my sister's wedding, he could get aggressive and behaved inappropriately at some other major events, like vacations.) Music can work wonders for people's memory, so if you want to have a father-daughter dance, I recommend picking a favorite song that he'll recognize and then asking him to dance with you 😊

I would make plans on how you want it to go, but then also have a back up plan incase he is not feeling well enough to take part in the festivities. I would consider hiring a caretaker just in case, it will also allow your mom (if she is his fill time care taker currently) to enjoy your wedding too. You will have a great day!

View Quoted Comment Thank you! I’ll look into this. The only tricky part would be the resort is 2 hours from our home town and everyone is staying at the resort. Not much around to stay anywhere else. I think the resort is totally booked too for that night. I’m wondering if we could hire someone to watch him for 2-3 hours during the reception to give him and my mom a break. I would need to hire someone to travel there through.

View Quoted Comment Maybe check that area for people you could hire or ask the resort if they know of a person or service in the area

View Quoted Comment That’s a great idea! I’ll ask my mom and see what she recommends! Thank you!

View Quoted Comment That’s a great idea! Let me think about some things

View Quoted Comment Great idea! I’m going to contact them tomorrow! Thanks so much!

Im sorry about your father and it makes me happy he is able to be there. Im getting married and unfortunately due to health issues my father wont be able to attend.

View Quoted Comment I’m so sorry to hear that. I can’t imagine. There’s always a chance that my father may not attend too but at least he was able to attend my first marriage. He’s a totally different person now. Not the dad I know.