My parents had a bad, drawn out divorce when I was 13. My mom got remarried to the the man who is truly her soulmate, who was also actually her first kiss when they were 10 years old. My step dad was the best blessing I could have ever received as he was & still is the best man I have ever known. The influence he played in our lives is unmeasurable. Being so young when my parents divorced & my biological dad always living in a different state that we didn't see much, my step dad played an enormous role in who I am today.
The day after I told my step dad that I was pregnant with his first grandchild, he had a brain aneurysm rupture. He fought with everything he had, & was even able to meet his grandson who is named after him, but unfortunately he passed when my son was 6 months old.
We had talked about my wedding for years prior to any of this, & it was always my plan to have both of my dads walk me down the isle & share a father daughter dance. After he passed, I initially did not want a wedding because I couldn't imagine one where he wasn't there but after many talks with my mom & MIL, I decided I would have one. I can't wrap my head around just recognizing my biological dad, nor do I want to. I feel like he deserves to be recognized as my dad, even if he can't physically be there, just as much as my biological dad. I am honoring him in several other ways throughout our wedding, but I can't figure out the father daughter dance. I dont want to hurt my biological dads feelings by not having one but I dont want to/can't pretend like my step dad wasn't supposed to be there too (we even had a song picked out for years). I want to have 2 dances - one with my biological dad & then both of my brothers were going to dance with me in honor of my step dad to the song he was supposed to dance with me to. I know dancing with my brothers will be emotional for my whole family as we are still devestated, but truthfully it would hurt me more not to give him that moment. Has anyone ever had a situation like this? Do guest get antsy/ bored with an additional first dance? Should I do my biological father/daughter dance first, then groom & MOG dance, & then dance with my brothers? so that the two father daughter dances dont run together? How have people had a dance like that announced? I know everyone there will already be aware of the situation but its just important to me for it to go smoothly.
