Faux Pas or Nah: Leaving the wedding without saying goodbye to the bride or groom?

Nah! The bride/groom are typically swamped all night. I say as long as you said hi to them at some point during the night, you don't need to take them away from whatever they are doing just to say goodbye.

Nah. If there's only 30 people there it might be awkward if you just leave randomly, but I don't think it's necessary for every person who leaves to go tell the bride and groom they are leaving.

Faux Pas, before i leave i always let the hostess know were heading out. Ive had events where people disappeared and i'm like when did they leave?

It’s going to be such a busy day that I think this is okay . The bridal party is going to be exhausted

I think you should at least try, but the bride and groom are going to be surrounded by people most of the time, so it may not be very easy

Oops, if this is a faux pas, I'm guilty of it! I guess I'd like out of town guests that I have no idea when I'll see them again to say goodbye, but I wouldn't be pissed if they didn't.

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Lol, same! Although I'm forgetful enough that someone could easily tell me they said goodbye and I forgot about it.

I always try to say bye, but I don't think it's rude if you don't. Bride and groom are always so busy, I think most would understand.

TRUE, it depends. Small intimate wedding, definitely say goodbye.

Large wedding and/or couple cannot be found or couple is busy, it's totally fine to silently leave.

Less than 100, rude. More than 100, not rude.

Hmmmm, I have to say I have actually done both. For me, it comes down to the couple themselves, whether or not I make a point to say goodbye. If they are family, or extremely close friends then "YES", I will find a way to say my goodbye's. They are the ones that will notice if you did or did not, and it is an unnecessary hurt. Then on some, I have signed the book, or left a message for them for thier future, and let one of the other guests who was going to be there for a while, to tell them I said goodbye. You're not being rude if you let someone else know, and like many others have said, they can get tied up and too busy.

Nah,
It's crazy at weddings and as long as you've said hi or bye to the couple, you're good.

Maybe it's just my upbringing, but I do think it's a little rude. I hate leaving any affair without saying goodbye to the host or the person who invited me. Typically at weddings, I'll make a quick stop and say, "I have to get going but I just wanted to say congratulations again and have fun on the honeymoon!" Although, truth be told, a lot of the weddings I go to anymore, I designed the dress and the bride has asked me to stay till the end to help her out or explain to the groom how everything works.

It depends. I wouldn't stand there for an hour waiting for my turn to say goodbye.

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I like those solid numbers, Erica. I think it's a good piece of guidance.

I think it definitely depends on the size of the wedding! I don’t think it’s necessary in a large wedding (the bride and groom are too busy) but I would definitely say bye in a smaller setting.

Maybe if it’s towards the end and there’s not a lot of people left at the party then it would be nice to say bye, that’s what I usually do. If it’s in the middle of the party then it’s compeltely up to you.

It depends. If you have the opportunity to say goodbye by all means say goodbye. If the bride and groom have their hands full I am sure they will appreciate not being interrupted.

Hmmm... I'm not sure. I think it's a little rude.

If all 100-130 guests that we are expecting said personal good byes to us I would be exhausted. Lol. Now, if his parents or our really close friends slipped out without finding us that would probably bother me a bit. The cousins we hardly see and coworkers can slip on out if that’s what they feel like though.