Feedback please on jealous cousin

I almost lost it, in both anger and laughter. WTF? She's mad at me for being engaged? That's rich. I laughed out loud and asked my Grandma why on earth she felt entitled to be the first one to be married. Grandma didn't know.

I am the oldest of all the grandchildren (not that it really matters), with a stable career, my own house etc. She is a recovering addict who really still needs to work on herself, but now is bringing a child into this world. My family have been nothing but supportive, yet she is mad at me?

Don't you just love people.... Let her be mad. That's so stupid.

I really just don't understand why people get so mad over someone else getting married before them. Seriously, that should not be your main focus. Who cares. I wouldn't worry about it. It's not important. I know many people who have been with they FH way less time then me and my FH and are getting married before us and/or younger than us (no family to compare this to).

Your cousin sounds like a real peach. Who cares what she thinks?

I don't think it's mad as much jealous. I will admit, I was jealous when my younger sister was married at 25 and I was 28 pregnant with my 2nd son. I was in a bad relationship after bad relationship before meeting fh. I took the hard road for all my choices even with my family being there every step of the way. Then my sister who is the girl everyone loves to hate (but still likes) is getting married. She made better choices then I did and was "rewarded" for them. I love her to death but am allowed to be jealous on the inside.

I think until she says something to you, it is all speculation. Nothing to get mad at

Is it possible Grandma is sort of...exaggerating? She could have misunderstood your cousins reaction (she's probably a little jealous that you have your life together and she doesn't but getting mad wouldn't do anything to change that) You say you don't talk to your cousin often, so maybe this isn't as unusual?

I only ask because this sounds ridiculous. Why (and how) does someone manage to make SOMEONE ELSE'S life about them?

I'm really not mad at her at all. I fully recognize her manipulation tactics for what they are.

I want to thank you ladies who have just posted, I posted the very same post on TK and got some really nasty comments! I think I might just come on over here. It seems the water's warmer

Haters gonna hate. I say don't worry about it

I would just ignore her, some people just always need the attention on them

Michelle h: I don't think Gma is exaggerating. Cousin has made these kinds of comments to me/about me before. Cousin always makes everything about her. Our other cousin was renting a gorgeous house and showing gma pictures and she made mean comments about how she didn't know how he was affording it (that confused me, because other cousin has a great job...)

That's super dumb, but just focus on you and your engagement don't let her take an ounce of your happiness and energy.

Well, since she has made the comments directly to you there is no speculation. I would let it roll off and she can go scratch her mad spot. Enjoy your engagement and dont let this bring you down.

Unfortunately, everyone has family like that. Hell, even FH has one. She's the biggest debbie downer about EVERYTHING involving us. If she's mad, she's mad. Thats her issue not yours, it won't have any significant impact on your day. It'll just ruin having a good time for her.

Sounds like cousin likes the spotlight, for all the wrong reasons (i.e - abusing drugs, etc.). Some people have a hard time accepting this & become jealous and to be quite frank, a 23 year old with a baby needs to grow up but that's not your job. If I were in your shoes, I'd consider doing one of two things: 1) speak to her directly and clear the air (especially if she's coming to the wedding) or 2) pretend you didn't hear the gossip and keep your distance. You can only control yourself.