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Feel guilty when receiving engagement ring from my fiancée

Jessica, on December 10, 2023 at 7:50 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 3

I recently got engaged, and while the proposal was magical, I find myself struggling with unexpected emotions about the engagement ring. Before the proposal, I only did some casual ring browsing with my fiancée so he knows the style I like. I have told him that I actually don't care about rings that much and fine with a cheaper alternative or even not having one at all. But since my fiancée thinks it's still needed, I suggested some cheaper brands for him to look at. Then he handled selecting and purchasing the ring independently.
Then the proposal happened recently. It turned out that he got the ring from a famous (and also expensive) jewelry brand for around 1.8ct. He said this is for the rest of our life so it is worth it. He didn't want to tell me the exact price but I know the range from doing some research. As a result, after the initial excitement, I became very guilty and anxious when I saw the ring. I also feel very nervous when I wear it, cuz it feels like I am wearing a car on my finger(lol).
Don't get me wrong - it's a stunning ring and I love it. But coming from a culture where people actually feel embarrassed when getting something expensive and love to show off when we buy something good at a cheap price, I cannot really enjoy the ring without thinking about the price. The worst thing is I am scared to talk about my feelings to other people because I don't want them to feel like I am showing off.
Wondering if anyone has been through a similar phase and how you handle this feeling.

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Latest activity by Cece, on December 10, 2023 at 9:43 PM
  • Cece
    Rockstar October 2023
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    I was nervous wearing mine at first too (make sure you get it insured right away, if you haven’t already)! Don’t worry though, the nervousness wears off after awhile; and I think your sensitivity to the price/feeling like you’re “showing off” will too. No one needs to know what your ring costs; and if they ask (rude!), simply say you don’t know. After all, for all they know the ring could be moissanite or even cubic zirconia! Don’t let something as silly and superficial as price keep you from enjoying your beautiful ring and the promise it represents!
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    Just Said Yes May 2025
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    Thanks, Cece! Haven't thought about the insurance yet - Do you have ring insurance you would recommend?

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  • Cece
    Rockstar October 2023
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    Definitely get it insured! Things can, and do, happen to rings all the time! And having that insurance policy in place makes you way less nervous to wear it. We just added our rings onto our homeowners insurance.
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