Feel like eloping

take a breather! It can get really overwhelming easily.
I did consider it due to the sheer costs of it. But there's ways to cut costs! Diy, ask people to borrow things, scout for deals, etc.

By the time our wedding was getting closer, I was genuinely worried that I wouldn't enjoy it because I would just associate it with stress, so I totally get how you feel.

But I will tell you, for me at least, it was all worth it. I know that sounds super cliche and I really didn't think I would be one to say that hahaha, but it REALLY was. The day-of, even though stressful things were still happening, I felt like every emotion other than pure bliss, was just muted. I was literally incapable of feeling stress or upset... it was like I had immunity from every negative emotion, and I can't figure out how to articulate it better than that!

I'm not going to BS you and say "trust that it will all work out" because odds are, a lot of things will not work out hahaha, as is the case with every wedding. But, trust that you will have a wonderful day and will be blissfully happy, even with all the things that don't work out

I totally understand. I think stress just comes naturally when everything is on your plate. It's been so stressful that FH doesn't lift a tiny finger for the wedding either other then "if you want it, get it" I am like NOOOOOO I want opinions lol.

The stress will get better after the wedding. Just woooosahhhhh.

Sorry about your car. That would totally suck

Take everything as it comes.

Yes!!! I tried to convince FH to elope but he's not having it. This is my second marriage and his first so he wants the whole experience (which I can understand). And though he has been a little better about it lately, he's barely done anything but pick his tuxes out, request a few songs for the reception and a few other things that I literally had to remind him to do 1000 times! I feel like it is costing us a ridiculous amount of money no matter how much we try and cut costs and it's so overwhelming. I'm trying to look on the bright side but it's hard at the moment. You are not alone!

HA. I felt like getting married by my fiancé’s grandfather and then going to bora bora because after my venue got new owners, new event planner, new chef blah blah I had to start ALL of my planning from scratch (you can read this entire story on my page lol) it is cheaper for us to go to Bora Bora for a week.. and dang we should of done it but I’ve always dreamed of a wedding and it’s a day we will never get back so we are sticking with the wedding. You can do it!

We have talked about this a lot over the past 6 months or so, lol. Now, we’re too far in to just elope... so we are charging on! Our floral estimate came in yesterday and I’m like ??? $325 for a bridal bouquet?! And $95 for a minimalist 4-stem bridesmaid bouquet?!! Not to mention the ceremony florals. We are waiting for all the numbers to come in then we will negotiate hard and cut as much as we can back. It’s so overwhelming - I hear you. Let’s both take deep breaths and just know it’s going to be ok! It’s more than ok- we found our soulmates and we’re marrying them!

Oh yes. I need a new car and the budget is going to be tight to do both. I know it'll be fine but I'm so annoyed and fed up.

I just started planning an am already so stressed out! It was all very simple and we had a plan as to how we wanted everything. Now it’s turned into us having to please others when we don’t have the money to do so. Elopement and a long vacation is sounding really good right now.

Yes. As exciting as it can be to plan a wedding, sometimes I see how all the costs add up, how this is taking time out of my life, and wonder if it would just be easier to elope. However, I see the wedding planning process as an opportunity to work as a team with my FH, negotiate and navigate finances, and communicate about our priorities. As they say, the marriage is the hard part, the wedding is the easy part! You're not alone. I've even looked up my local city hall to see how photogenic it was should we go the elopement route. Good luck!

Yup! We hit that point last week. Honestly, since we are most of the way done, we just stopped lol. Anything that hasn't gotten done, won't. We've thrown a ton of $ at it, and are okay with things just ending up however if it means some peace for us. We have a dress, rings, venue, invites/guests, food, photographer, and officiant. Flowers? Eh, we'll see. Seating chart? Eh, maybe it'll happen. Not stressing out beyond belief at each other? Definitely the priority.

Unfortunately I see a lot of posts/questions on here where brides are making the wedding planning more difficult than it needs to be. That then leads to a chain reaction of other stresses. It’s sad and unnecessary.

View Quoted Comment Girl I'm DIYing, getting a ton donated and discounted... Nashville is expensive and no matter how much I've scraped off.... costs just keep mounting. This weekend is the final DIY craft day push hopefully having it all done will help this feeling so overwhelmed.

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much girl. Super empathetic and articulate indeed. Due these tiffs we are having I'm finding it hard to relate to my partner right now and feel at odds versus on the same team. Maybe focusing on that will improve the overall

View Quoted Comment Thanks girl. It's like of all times to wreck the car??!!?! Now really?!?! Lol

View Quoted Comment I hear you girl. And I'm watching these expenses pile up like what else could we be doing with that money?! Ughhhh

View Quoted Comment I know this is a one time thing. It's not like we are going to be paying for a wedding every year.... but it's just so much that could be going to other things. And he is a stickler for money. Money money money. It changes the narrative for sure.

View Quoted Comment Yea girl! Tall about floral!!! Estimate came back for greenery, mininal.... $5500!!!! I almost laughed. Nope! It is all just so silly.

View Quoted Comment Yes indeed. We are simultaneously paying off student loans, saving to start a new business in 2020... and then I go and wreck my car 😩🤷‍♀️

View Quoted Comment Yes...m another issue. This started out being about us and now it's transformed into appeasing everyone.

View Quoted Comment Great advice and perspective. It should be a great training tool for the fundamentals of marriage.