Feel like eloping

I literally almost cancelled the wedding a few weekends ago. I wanted to just run away and elope. My fiance's mother doesn't agree with our lifestyle and therefore doesn't support us getting married, so she isn't going. We are a same-sex couple and I've been spending too much time worrying about what other people will think and how to make it least awkward for other people. I finally realized if they don't want to come and support us and love us, that's their loss, but we are going to have the wedding we want and be happy.

I am however, very overwhelmed with how much everything costs and the planning, but at least I'm not going crazy (or haven't yet anyway)

I actually just asked my FH today if we could just elope. I am really not liking the planning of anything anymore because I feel like I can't get anyone to agree. I feel like this isn't even my wedding, its a family reunion for my FH. He wants to have 60 kids there and he wants to start inviting cousins if some other family can't come. And my biggest peeve is that he just told me how much debt he is in when I pried it out of him!

I am also dealing with my sister who hasn't gotten her dress yet, and her trying to find a dress for my niece. She keeps sending me photos that look like wedding dresses for my niece. No my niece can't wear a lace dress, and no she can't wear a long dress with lace sleeves. I feel like I shouldn't be there, my sister is going to top my dress (its simple and elegant) with a bridal dress for my niece!

On another note I really want to play with my silhouette cameo that I just bought a few weeks ago. If I could just get my FH to leave me alone and stop making dumb comments about what I should make with it, that would be great!

After having this same feeling because of stress, drama, planning.. I have to say. Don’t elope! Take a couple days to not even think about planning or talk about it. Relax with your future husband or even just take a day to be alone and relax. Your wedding day will be absolutely wonderful. Another tip that worked for me, don’t sweat the little things. At my wedding, our tables were set up in the wrong order and people sat at the wrong tables. It didn’t matter! They were all there to celebrate with us and show their support and love.
I hope you can relax and enjoy the rest of planning! It’ll get easier I promise!

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Thank goodness they are only dreams. I have constant thoughts that I'm just going to have a meltdown at the wedding because my FH is going to do or say something dumb or the 60 kids are going to be screaming and running around like wild animals.

I understand completely and today we just decided to elope. I feel much better, and now looking forward to my wedding and enjoying planning for our honeymoon!

Yes thank goodness! I’m glad I’m not the only one! Lol I have already told my fiancé no shenanigans lol his guys can get him in trouble quick lol my family scares me! I have a few that make me want to elope just so they don’t make me mad at my wedding bc I have that gut feeling something crazy is going to happen.

View Quoted Comment Amen!!!! Like don't tell me how to feel, as me how to help!

View Quoted Comment Yes girl. We are constantly bickering and it's not like us at all. It's just adding to stress... then throw in a car wreck... work... etc. I guess this is a good snapshot of how to handle stress as a couple. Oyyyyy

Right!!! Married life!!! I know that doesn’t help! But hey you are marrying the love of your life!! It will all work itself out!! Me and mine have been bickering for months lol over stuff that is sooooo stupid and it’s not like us either. Him not getting hours all of a sudden, me stressed at work and just exhausted over everyone else’s drama. Even my people planning my shower can’t get along that I’m having to help plan it 🤦‍♀️ Then my parents decided to buy a house during the planning and almost 100 days till the wedding. Hahaha I feel like I’m gonna just fall out sometimes!!! It will get better!! Look at the positive 🥰

View Quoted Comment Not to mention I’ve almost thrown in the towel too and asked my parents for a check instead lol but we have so much planned it would be awful to forgo it all now!!! BTW you’re dress is BEAUTIFUL!!!!!! Love it!!!!

View Quoted Comment It's so sad. Love is love ... a love from a mother to a daughter.... and the love between you and your future wife. Her judgements and opinions should not stand between you guys. Today is actually Tennessee's 3 year anniversary for marriage equality! I look forward to the day when we can all just love who we love and not have to explain ourselves to strangers or family. That we are all people.... just humans.

View Quoted Comment Wow.... you're juggling a lot. And family being difficult doesnt help. And kids..... ugh. We are kid free wedding all the way!

View Quoted Comment I think hitting the refocus button will do a lot of good. And maybe spending quality time together. We have just been so busy it adds to the stress. Thanks for the advice girl.

View Quoted Comment Wow. Felt it. Made the decision. Awesome!

View Quoted Comment Yes there are some rogue people in the group... my man of honor for one...

View Quoted Comment Girl we are full on piling it on!!!! It's like when it rains it pours.... lord!

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much girl!!

Don't let it get the best of y'all. Why not take a weekend to yourselves with no wedding stuff and do something together? Maybe spend a day outdoors hiking or go camping, or if that's not your thing, go wander an art exhibit or a museum or take a picnic to a park. The money is stressful but it's one of those things that stressing and obsessing over won't help. Do what you can to relax and know that money comes and goes but the health of your relationship is what is most valuable.

View Quoted Comment I love that.... money comes and goes... but the health of our relationship is what's most important. Thanks girl.

I was all about having the whole wedding experience too and now all I want to do is elope. We're only having about 25 people and I still want to throw in the towel the more I plan.