Feeling bummed

Don’t be bummed. Wedding planning can definitely be overwhelming. Make your list of things to do and tackle them one at a time. Some things will be easy to do and cross off quickly while others will take time. But once you start working on those tasks, you’ll start to feel better when you start getting things done and crossing them off your list. Hang in there! You got this!

No need to feel bummed. 6 months is still not impossible

Understandable to feel bummed! The good thing is that you have time & the $$ to get this done!

View Quoted Comment Im very super organized. I have a whole planning binder & lists upon lists. I just feel like ☹️ Because I THOUGHT mostly everything was taken care of. I thought I only needed 1 vendor but i need 2 or 3. Im looking for a photographer now. Wedding is in October. Im also planning my baby shower which is in May.

View Quoted Comment Yea. Thats the good thing. Im glad I started looking at stuff now. I wasn’t going to start looking at wedding stuff until after the baby shower.

Monica,
You got this hun! Wedding planning can definitely be overwhelming. Maybe ask your girls to help you in on certain things? I've ask one of my girls to help in finding places in California for our bachelorette trip (as far as for where to stay, what to do, etc.). She's always good at finding cool and fun stuff like that. Definitely utilize this website to find certain vendors. It is challenging when you are planning a wedding from the ground up verses ones that provide packages. Make sure to have a list and give yourself a deadline of when to get it done. Wedding Wire helps to break down all of that!

View Quoted Comment Yes I have lists on lists. Im also planning my own baby shower which is in May and now FH wants to add in a Baptism BEFORE the wedding on top of that. Im asking friends for photography recommendations but there’s certain tasks I dont feel comfortable giving to them. Its more of stuff I need to figure out. Its just a bummer that I thought I didn’t have much left to do but now I realize yes I do have a lot to do. I didn’t want to finish wedding planning until after my baby shower but now that I picked up my planning binder I have to get a jump on things now.

The wedding budgeting anxiety is real. I have right at 5 months to go, and although it's doable and I can technically afford it, having a chunk of money hovering over your head feels crippling sometimes.

This is totally open and honest, but I'm incredibly selfish with my "spending money". My fiancé and I love to wine and dine and take trips, and I guiltlessly love a spur of the moment shopping day or even surprising a friend with a gift. It can be really hard to train yourself to set aside money that you may normally spend more freely. You're totally normal to feel a little bummed!

I've found that tasking myself with ONE thing at a time is helpful. Every week, I have a reminder to pay one vendor - that way I don't feel like I'm spending such a huge chunk at once.

You got it! Your wedding will be so worth it. Try to really take engagement and wedding planning in, with all of it's struggles and glory, and enjoy this time! Your day will be here before you know it!

One more thing, my absolute favorite quote from my fiancé that has really kept me grounded during the not-so-fun parts of wedding planning --

"I can't wait for September 25th" - we are getting married September 24th. But the real day to look forward to is the first day of being husband and wife. This has been such a blissful reminder that all of this wedding stuff is just fun extras.

You got it!

View Quoted Comment The good thing is a majority of stuff was paid for or money was set aside because covid cancelled our wedding 2 weeks before our original wedding date of April 4 2020. Very sweet of your FH is looking forward to first full day of being married. We eloped on our anniversary after we postponed the first time. Then we had to postpone a 2nd time. Its just that I forgot we are missing a few vendors that we lost the first time we postponed. Im super organized. I wasn’t planning on finishing up w wedding planning until after my baby shower but now that I see theres a lot I need to figure out, Im definitely back in planning mode (both baby shower & wedding at the same time).

Same here, after we postponed last March I didnt want to do anything wedding related for nearly a year. My advice is scrap the old lists and start a new one, in priority order. It gets a lot easier to make those lists the closer the wedding is

View Quoted Comment Already contacted all my vendors to confirm everything is still on. Next order of business: find a photographer and videographer which is where the extra $$ comes in. I used my whole stimulus to put money aside for all the other vendors (almost everything is paid for now)

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Awww! Well, I like what Ally said, but I say don't get rid of the old list just yet. Look at it and see what you want to keep and then what you want to do to start fresh. How are you currently using your lists? Is it on your phone? Is it in a planner? Do you have a wedding binder/notebook?

Also, I'm glad that all vendors are still on! Have you tried asking family and friends for recommendations for photography and videography? I am using my stimulus checks towards my wedding as well

View Quoted Comment I have a wedding binder + excel spreadsheets. In march 2020 i printed out a calendar page and wrote down weekly tasks to be finished until the wedding day (which was april4th) I started with that. Then started with my vendor list. Got a new backdrop vendor. Got bartenders. Im currently waiting to hear back from photography & videography vendors. I asked friends, am currently using thumbtack & looking on yelp. Some of these ppl are so slow @ responding.

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Monica,
I totally can relate on how vendors are slow at responding! The top three venues I wanted happened to be the slow ones. The ones I had as an option answered a lot faster lol. What you just told me you have already accomplished is great news! And yes, make sure you are getting things done, but not OVERWHELMING yourself with all the tasks at once. Stress is not good for you and the baby Please make sure to take care of yourself too