Feeling defeated...kind of over my wedding?

I am in your exact situation - postponed 2x, shortened guest list, pregnant sister, people having to travel and ohhhh so much guilt (that I put on myself) about still trying to have something small. I literally said today how I regret every penny I have spent on this wedding haha. This situation sucks and I definitely feel your pain. This past year has really made me realize how much I just value relationships in general because life can be turned upside down so quickly. So yeah, to me at this point it’s all about the marriage itself and I’m just “over” the celebration of it. So you’re definitely not alone and I wish you all the best and happiness!

View Quoted Comment Thank you for sharing your story. I find a little bit of calm knowing somebody out there is in the same situation. I know that both of our days will be so very special, getting there is the overwhelming part. I agree, this past year has shown everybody what’s important in life. I’m hoping that our weddings will be the celebration we both dream of! Wishing you a lifetime of love and happiness!

My wedding is scheduled for November 2021, we booked it over the summer when everyone thought things were getting better. Then things began to get worse. I’m very up and down with the whole thing. It seems like one week I’m planning as much as I can and I can’t wait to get on to the next thing, then I start to feel defeated and I want to just cancel the whole thing because of all the unknowns. I find it difficult too because all of my friends who have been married don’t understand that added stress of pandemic planning. They try to be reassuring which I appreciate but them telling me I can just have a smaller wedding and not to worry is just irritating. They got to have their weddings worry free of state guidelines. I totally understand that “over it” feeling because I get waves of that often. I hope once your wedding gets closer you will regain your excitement ❤️

Yes!! I thankfully haven't had to postpone, but we out our venue deposit down in March and less than a week later was when all the shutdowns started. The wedding is 8/28/21, but my bridesmaids have already told me, no shower, no bachelorette. And it wasn't just that they told me, it was more, the pandemic is affecting everyone, get over it. But I'm only doing this once. And we didn't get to do the whole dress shopping experience. It was just my mom and I, which was wonderful, I am super close to my mom. But all the things I envisioned aren't happening. And now my maid of honor won't come unless she is vaccinated. Well I can't make that happen. So yes. Last week I cried I just should have eloped. It's a domestic destination wedding anyway. Should have just kept it super small and intimate. Parents/siblings only.


So I wish you the best. Hope this passes. And it gets better from here. You definitely aren't alone.

Girl, I feel ya. We were blessed to be able to get our money back and we are eloping!

I feel you! My emotions are so up and down as of late. It’s important for us to marry this year due to planning for children. I’m coming to terms with the fact that our “dream wedding” will likely not happen during this pandemic era. Hoping things will be better by the fall but we will still be taking precautions of course. We’re planning on having a vow renewal in a few years where we can celebrate with more family/friends and potentially even have our kids be part of it.

I feel this! We have been engaged since 2017, had to postpone our big day twice and now are facing it again this year. I’m not even excited because I feel like there isn’t anything to be excited about. It’s all so up in the air with you may or may not be “allowed” to have the dream day you wanted. I know it sounds selfish as well, but I really had hoped this all would be over by now. Good luck girl and hang in there, your not alone!

Yes yes yes, I have planned 4 weddings for the different season my wedding has changed to and then a small intimate wedding with just family. That was a ton of drama from one side not trusting my side that they have been safe through covid. We currently live with all the family from my side that would come/be invited and were going to quarantine leading up. So I decided eff it we are eloping the two of us with my uncle still marrying us and no one is invited. We will do random ppl as witnesses.


We are now expecting and that was the final straw, I am ready to move on from my wedding and start our lives as a married couple.