Apologies as I am sure I sound entitled, but nonetheless I've been feeling quite sad about this.
I am throwing a small (40 ppl) wedding at the end of September and I've really put A LOT of thought and effort into making this enjoyable and meaningful for all guests. I have 5 bridesmaids, and none of them have done anything to help whatsoever, other than offer. I always accept the offers, and give them things to do, and it just never gets done, so I've been pretty alone and overwhelmed in this.
My best friend is my MOH, and she has been talking about planning my bachelorette party for a year now. I've always wanted to have like a 90's spice girls music video montage sort of event, so I asked for it quite directly. Instead, she plans a hotpot karaoke night where all the girls wear plaid. I don't get it, nor care about hotpot or karaoke, but I appreciated the effort so I went with it. The plan was to do 90 minutes of that, and then bar hop before heading back to her house for the night.
The B-party is tomorrow night at 8. MOH just texted me that she can only stay until 10 pm and cannot drink because has to be up early to throw an engagement party at her house for her other friend the next day. This was all news to me. She also didn't bother to get a plaid outfit. So now I have a 120 minute no-drinking karaoke hotpot bachelorette "party" cut short because her other friend's wedding is more important.
I know I can just throw my own party. But for me, its feeling like I am not worth my friends making even 1% of an effort for me. Even the one event planned feels like a burden and an afterthought. Am I being overly sensitive? Maybe I should just be thrilled that they are spending time with me? Your perspective is so truly appreciated!