Feeling down because I can't motivate myself to lose weight for my wedding.

I am a week and a day out and i never found the motivation to lose that final 5-10 pounds... I just put my dress on and decided that this is me and my wedding day will definitely show me as me not me at my skinniest. I beat myself up a lot those at about 2 months out. I even tried to get motivated and do Insanity but with a full time job and almost 5 year old daughter life just got in the way. (not much help but i completely feel your pain)

I feel exactly the same way, but looking at your picture you are super cute, you won't have a single problem looking beautiful on your wedding day. You have plenty of time to tone up before your wedding day if you really wanted to. I hear that the Jillian Michaels 30 day shred is good for that. I have it, I tried it, I have a bad knee and can't do it so well. Don't stress, your FH loves you and you will look AMAZING!!!!!

Thank both of you for responding! Kelly, you are so sweet! I really appreciate what you said

I keep trying to tell myself that 63 days is a lot. The Insanity program is 60 days, so it is possible for me to tone up. I guess part of my issue is that I have my bachelorette party in two weeks, a bridal boudoir session to use for my fiances wedding gift in 3 weeks and I am angry at myself for not getting my butt in shape for any of it. I had a year to lose weight. CRAZY to think where I could be by now. I am a kindergarten teacher and unfortunately I didn't push myself to workout after long days. Even with such a high paced job, I should have woken up early or done what needed to be done.

It doesn't help that at one point in my life I was 210lbs and lost close to 70. I gained a few back here and there, but I am really hard on myself. I just don't want to look at my wedding pictures and feel terrible

You are adorable! You're going to look amazing!

And I know what you mean about being hard on yourself. I am way bigger at 25 than I was at 18 (having a kid didn't help).

However, FH and I have decided the best way to motivate us to lose weight: whoever has the healthiest BMI and muscle tension 2mos before the wedding gets to pick the honeymoon spot.

He wants Europe. I want the Carribean. Either way, we both win

Just remember that your man loves YOU and since you love HIM, well you're a teacher. If A = B and B = C, than A = C and you must love you too

Awe, thank you so much Marisa! I think you guys doing a contest is a GREAT idea! Maybe I can motivate the hubby to be with something like that!

Thank you for sharing!

You're going to be a beautiful bride Sabrina , it sucks to not have motivation. I had started working out a few months ago (I have 10 months now to the wedding) only because I hated how I looked and I knew it was time. But I don't diet and I just picked what I wanted to do and do it 4 times a week no matter what. Biggest change I did was I drink water now, I really didn't before so if anything I am doing something good. You still have time to do a little something (especially if you want your arms or your butt to look good) just focus on those if needed when you wake up.

But no matter what your guy loves you for you and loves how you look already

Girllllll down 70 ish from 210? That's awesome! You're problem is you still see yourself as the heavy girl. You should be proud of that accomplishment. I am close to the 200 mark myself. I'm the biggest I've ever been and it sucks, but my FH thinks I"m perfect and he loves my curves. You should be proud of yourself. You are my hero!

I know how you feel, I've struggled for over A YEAR to loose weight, I've gone up, and down, and up and down, and am at the same weight I was A YEAR AGO.

You're going to be beautiful either way, think about that dress, how it makes you feel. Does it MATTER that you lose weight? Of course not! Because your dress and your FH make you feel beautiful.

And, losing weight IS hard. I have found recently that eating a big meal at lunch, keeping dinner light, is working really well for me, and I've only got a few pounds to get under 200. A few weeks ago I was 209. A few months 214, it's not much, but it's coming off faster this past week changing WHEN I eat, so I'm hoping to get to 190 before my big day. I'm more concerned for the honeymoon really....I still don't have a swimsuit for Hawaii!

BUT...YOU CAN DO IT!!!!

And, you really are quite beautiful by the way, and I think you're perfect the way you are!

Rebecca, thank you so much! My arms are a huge thing for me, so that is something I will definitely do! You have 10 months, I know you will definitely look great on your wedding day!

And Kelly, thank you! Your saying that really meant a lot to me! You are beautiful the way you are, truly. Your fiance is completely right

I think you are right though, I will always see myself as heavier. I have always been very hard on myself, so the wedding makes it about a million times worse. My fiance loves me the way I am and for whatever reason he thinks my size is perfect. He has made me love myself more, which also keeps me from being as motivated as I could be, haha!

I attached some photos of me when I was larger. Most people think I'm kidding when I say I lost a lot of weight. I got down to a size 3, but that was doing 2 a day workouts and training with a trainer. I have accepted the fact that may not be a realistic goal now that I have a full time career and a much busier schedule.

I'm the same way, I feel that I've gained since being engaged and I try to lose weight but then I give in too much.

I think we all want to support you by letting you know that we think you're lovely as you are!

But I also know very well that feeling of "it doesn't matter what YOU think, just what *I* think/feel/see". I do think there is still plenty of time for you to make visible changes for yourself (taking progress pictures helps - you might be surprised how far you come in a month or two without even realizing it).

That said, don't stress about it. Say the scale doesn't budge even with work - oh well! You are beautiful, your man knows you are beautiful, and I don't think you'll regret your wedding photos either way. They'll bring back too many happy memories of a wonderful day!

Halloween bride, first of all I love that you love Halloween - it is my favorite! Thank you so much for the sweet things you said, I really appreciate it so much! It looks like we are getting married right around the same time. Yay for October weddings! I am so jealous you are going to Hawaii! It is gorgeous and you will LOVE it! Keep up the hard work, you are going to look amazing!

P.S - I wish you were right about my dress. I got a tighter fitting one with the idea I

would lose weight and it would motivate me more. I also ordered my regular size as opposed to a size up (big mistake, lol). It is fitted about to the high hip area, but my tummy area could be a problem if I don't tone it up!

After thought: I recently lost 60 pounds myself. I still think of myself as huge for some reason. I have to go back and look at earlier pictures to remind myself. Sometimes we're so darn cruel to ourselves, no?

Thank you, Munashi. Reading responses is making me feel a lot better after a hard day of kicking myself over and over again. Congrats on the 60lb loss! I know how hard it is to do! We are cruel to ourselves, it really is sad

I think I will always associate myself as a big girl. Even at my smallest I still felt huge!

Thank you, Sabrina.

It's so, so hard to train ourselves out of that mindset.

The last time I was this size, I also still felt huge. It was what lead to me gaining a lot of weight, in part. I said forget it! I feel big anyway, I may as well just eat what I want and enjoy myself.

6 years later, my weight was much higher than it had ever been. I had high blood pressure, high cholesterol, and a LIVER DISEASE resulting from the weight I was carrying. I was only 22 when I got that news.

I'm 23 now and have things back under control, mostly because it wasn't optional. I didn't want to end up needing a liver transplant if I had a choice in the matter.

I still have to be careful and vigilant about my liver, but the blessing has been this - it helps me put aside the self-abusive thought patterns I have about my appearance and focus on just being healthy.

So I do still feel big even though I'm not.. but I know I'm doing better health wise! So I say go ahead and give it your (more)

..best effort to tone yourself or lose weight. Even if you can't see an immediate difference in 6-8 weeks, it's probably still there. And you might feel good about just doing the work for work's sake.

But still, don't stress on it. <3 Enjoy your wedding!

Looking at the health aspect of it is a great idea! I really should focus on that in the long run. Nothing is more important than health. I am so happy that you have made so many positive changes, good for you love!

Sabrina, When I was younger... like high school, and I was maybe 130 (I'm 5'9) I thought I was heavy... as I got older, the weight eventually crept on and I didn't see coming or even realize it was there. I felt fine. I was confident. I had no problem attracting the opposite sex. Then I started taking these diet pills and weight started falling off of me. I got down to 145. It wasn't until I got down to 145 did I become self conscious of myself. The years go by, the weight came back... now after the engagement it's more than before. My FH is a smaller guy. Only about an inch shorter, but smaller framed. His whole family are smaller people and constantly take jabs at people about their weight. They have yet to jab me to my face. My point is, everyone has their issues. It's up to us to do something about it. I think even if you just got an hour walk in a day, you would feel better because you were doing SOMETHING about it. Trust me, you WILL be beautiful!

Oh and BTW your pics you put up are ADORABALLS!!!!