Feeling insecure about my ceremony..

I think your dress looks GORGEOUS! The tulle gives it a really ethereal vibe, and the beading and designs look like vines and flowers. I think totally works with a boho/ nature theme

As to being the center of attention, your officiant will be the one doing most of the speaking during the ceremony, and there's only a few moments during the reception where people will be totally focused on you. Plus, any attention is going to be people who are happy and excited for you rather than being critical. During those moments you can focus on your spouse, how excited you are to be getting married, etc. Hope that helps!

Obsessed with your dress. I think its going to be gorgeous in a forest. So don't fret....like when would any of us walk into a hotel, restaurant, park, golf course in a gown? Only on our wedding days, so we can really do what ever we want. We set the tone. Try to reframe the way you think of your guests as his or your side. They are showing up for both of you becoming a union. I literally felt the same way as you because I am having a short ceremony and dinner only and I literally bought another more casual dress that luckily I was able to return. I love my wedding gown and I will rock it where ever I get married. Restaurant, mountain top....wherever. I'm nervous too about people looking at me but just focus on what the day is actually about. Your marriage.

Your dress is so beautiful! And I think it’ll fit perfectly with your location and vibe. People who will be in attendance will be there to support you and your fiancé. You’ll be gorgeous!

Your dress is beautiful! And you look beautiful in it. Don’t worry about the venue. Mine is not quite forest material either and that’s also where my ceremony will be.


And oh boy do I understand the family thing. Neither of us have a lot of friends (I LITERALLY have one and am also inviting a girl I used to be close to for many years) and neither of us have much family. We both only speak to one side of our family. But I understand the pressure of being “a bride.” The only side of the family I have I talk to every once in a blue moon and they are DIFFICULT. I didn’t do a bridal shower bc of my family & having no friends. We’re not doing a rehearsal dinner because we only have 4 people total in our wedding party and his mom is throwing so she wants to invite my fiancés aunt & uncle, grandparents and his two cousins with their husbands bc they’re all very close. But that’s not the problem. It’s that I can’t invite any of my family because they all don’t get along. And I felt too terrible about how my family is to just do a dinner without them. It just made me upset so we’ve decided not to. So I’m feeling really insecure too
Since I hate attention on me period, planning a wedding focused around me has been awful lol so I understand. I’ve had so many worries and so many best advice honestly is to not overthink it

I dont think I'd say a ceremony typically focuses on the bride. It focuses on the couple together as one unit, and in everything going forward you're now one unit. His friends are your friends, his family is your family. I dont think you need to be insecure about the ceremony at all. Put up one of those "choose a seat, either side..." signs. You could, in advance, let his family know (or have him let his family know, if youre uncomfortable with it) to have some people sit on "your" side so it doesn't look imbalanced. That or put up just the exact # of chairs even between the two sides so people have to sit on your side to balance it out.

And your dress is beautiful, dont feel like you have to box yourself into making your dress fit a theme. Thats a really unnecessary trend of recent years. Do whatever you want.

It’s gorgeous and would go with any theme. Wear it as long as you are comfortable and then change into something more laid back or outside friendly if you are worried! But remember, it’s your day and everyone expects you to look like a bride!

I think your dress is beautiful and will look beautiful in the setting

Thank you all so much for your responses! It means a great deal to me, considering I have no one else to release these feeling to. I love the idea of not fitting into a box, or doing what is "traditional" or "orthodox". I might even add a little crystal headpiece, since I'm not wearing a veil 😊

What do you gals think about entertainment and music for the reception? It will be an intimate party, of course, but I love music and entertainment (I'm a former Circus Artist 🤓).

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This really resonates with me! It's a shame that some people can be so self-centered that they would risk the happiness of a celebration just to satisfy their own egos and petty drama.. I'm having a little battle w/ something similar. Unfortunately, it's between my step mom and mom (both parents are HAPPILY remarried). My step mom tends to create/fuel tension between her and my mom. BUT...alas.. she'll have to get her big girl panties on and suck it up for my wedding 🙃

Your dress is sooo beautiful!
And I can definitely relate. I keep my friend circle very small and don't really get along with my immediate family very well.
I hope you can enjoy your day and celebrate your love like you deserve! For me it helps to know my other half will be there and we will support each other all day! 😊

Your dress is freaking awesome! Maybe pull the bohemian in a bit with hair?

Also it looks like your dress can bustle, so you could do that after the ceremony.