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Feeling let down

Pang, on March 31, 2021 at 6:33 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 4
Hi guys. I’ve been feeling very sad and let down by my side of the family. With the pandemic, we lost our venue then we end up canceling our out of state wedding. Now we’re planning a small wedding in July in our home state with just our immediate family and friends.


So this means everyone is coming from out of state (my side of the family) and all of my bridesmaids pretty much decided they can’t come due to personal reasons. I get it, they have lives too. I just wish they were here for me now that it’s my time. I supported them when it was their special day. My parents won’t come due to medical reasons. The only person, who has stood by me is my brother. Nothing is stopping him. My fiancé doesn’t seem to understand why I’m so upset and feel so defeated with this whole wedding thing.
I’ve been telling myself that I don’t care and it’ll be fine cause this is really when you find out who’s really cares and those that are just there.
At this point there won’t be a bridal party. Can someone suggest how I should do the ceremony? I had this vision of everyone walking down the aisle but now I don’t even know anymore.
Thank you.

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Latest activity by Courtney, on April 1, 2021 at 6:00 AM
  • Elizabeth
    Super June 2021
    Elizabeth ·
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    I'm so sorry that the pandemic has affected your big day. As a covid bride, I completely understand how you feel. I'm glad you will have some people close to you to support you on that day. It sounds like some people have disappointed you and I know that's hard.


    For walking down the aisle, you don't need people to process with you. I think just you is quite beautiful and regal. It's just a shorter procession time than ig you had a bunch of girls walking down the aisle.
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  • Victoria
    Devoted June 2020
    Victoria ·
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    Regal is a beautiful word for it! It’ll be a stunning moment to do something like that.
    A friend of mine, pre-Covid had the guests ‘process’ in. It was a (gorgeous) dramatic moment for the guests, to see the beautifully decorated church and her and her FH at the end of the aisle.
    It’s so unfortunate to have covid impact your family and friends presence so much, my heart goes out to you! Could you coordinate a ‘well wish shawl’? A shawl and fabric markers that can be sent to the people who can’t attend and they can write a note to you, and you can have it with you that day? Maybe even just your parents- kind of like a hug you can keep?
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  • D
    June 2021
    Dj Tanner ·
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    It is totally fine just do walks down the aisle. Who cares about bridesmaids anyway? Its such a not needed thing in weddings and typically only complicates things even further and causes relationship problems between friends. As a guest I would much rather just see the bride walk down
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    Savvy September 2021
    Courtney ·
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    That’s so hard I’m sorry your having to go through this. It’s totally no fair for them to ditch your wedding! Not cool at all. Nevertheless moving forward I agree with what the others said. It’s totally okay just to have yourself walk down the aisle personally I think the focus is on you and your significant other anyways. Speaking of it could just be you two standing up at the alter. Maybe just have something there that you can sit your flowers on. In addition to that for all those who missed your wedding due to covid restrictions next year you could have a big anniversary party to celebrate your one year of marriage. However your bridesmaids my feelings are unless they have valid reasons like covid or a vacation planned for a long time or a birthday or something of major importance then they have no reason not to be there for you. They signed up to be there for you the day they said yes. I do hope things get better for you. Sorry for this long message. Best of luck ♥️
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